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Mary G. Commander

About me

Born and raised in Hampton Roads, I only strayed as far away as Richmond for law school.  I have worked with the court systems here for more than 30 years and know how things work. My goal is to make whatever legal service you require as easy on you as it possibly can be. With my experience, I will not be experimenting with you or your case. My firm is not a training ground for new associates. It is a place to come when you want the tried and true; when you want the right answer the first time.


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Practice areas


  1. Divorce: 50%
    35 years
  2. Adoption: 20%
    35 years
  3. Mediation: 10%
    35 years
  4. Family: 10%
    35 years
  5. Child Custody: 10%
    35 years



Hourly ($350/hour)

Payment types:

Cash, Check, Credit card

Attorney endorsements

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  • Lori Ann Michaud

    Mary has been a fierce adversary on several contested matters -- yet she is always professional and pleasant to work with.


    Lori Michaud Divorce and separation Attorney
    Relationship: Opposing Counsel on matter

  • John Mark Cooper

    Mary is a very experienced and accomplished attorney who works in adoption and workers' compensation. She is very smart. I have sent her cases for years.


    John Cooper Car accident Attorney
    Relationship: Fellow lawyer in community


VAAuthorized to practice law198103/31/2016
We have not found any instances of professional misconduct for this lawyer.
Avvo contributions
Legal answers
Award nameGrantorDate granted
Client's Choice AwardAvvo2015
Family Law and Family MediationBest Lawyers in America2015
Family LawSuperLawyers2015
Legal Elite Family LawVirginia Business Magazine2015
Best Lawyers in Hampton RoadsCoastal Virginia Magazine2015
Top 50 Women Lawyers in VirginiaSuperLawyers2015
Family LawSuperLawyers2014
Family Law"Legal Elite"2014
"Legal Elite"-Alternative Dispute ResolutionVirgnia Business Magazine2013
"AV" RatingMartindale-Hubbell2012
"Top 50 Women Lawyers in Virginia"SuperLawyers2012
SuperLawyer-Family LawLaw & Politics Magazine2012
SuperLawyer-Family LawLaw & Politics Magazine2011
"Legal Elite" in Domestic RelationsVirginia Business Magazine2010
SuperLawyerLaw & Politics Magazine2010
SuperLawyerLaw and Politics Magazine2009
Leaders In The LawVirginia Lawyers Weekly2008
Family Law Section Public Service AwardVirginia State Bar2008
Jefferson Award For Public Service (Regional Award Winner)American Institute For Public Service2007
Entrepreneur of the Year (Finalist)National Ass'n of Women Business Owners2007
Woman Of the Year (Law)YWCA2006
Work experience
TitleCompany nameDuration
PartnerCommander & Carlson, Attorneys And Mediators2010 - Present
OwnerMary G. Commander, Attorney & Certified Mediator2000 - 2010
Substitute JudgeNorfolk Juvenile and General District Courts2000 - 2007
PartnerGoldblatt, Lipkin & Cohen, P.C.1985 - 2000
Administrative Hearing OfficerCommonwealth of Virginia1983 - 2003
AssociateHeilig, McKenry & Fraim1982 - 1985
Law Clerk to Hon. John A. MacKenzie, U.S. District JudgeUnited States District Court (E.D. Va)1981 - 1982
Association namePosition nameDuration
Virginia State Bar, Family Law SectionBoard of Governors2013 - Present
American Bar AssociationFellow2013 - Present
National Center For Family LawBoard Member2007 - Present
Virginia Academy of Collaborative ProfessionalsMember2004 - Present
International Academy of Collaborative ProfessionalsMember2004 - Present
Better Business BureauMember2000 - Present
MemberVirginia Mediation Network1995 - Present
Virginia Women Attorneys Association (Norfolk Chapter)Past President Local Chapter and Member1985 - Present
Norfolk-Portsmouth Bar AssociationLaw Library Board Member1983 - Present
Virginia Trial Lawyers AssociationMember1983 - Present
American Bar AssociationMember1980 - Present
National Council of Juvenile and Family Court JudgesMemberN/A
Family Law Association of Hampton RoadsMemberN/A
Virginia State BarCircuit Representative2001 - 2004
Old Dominion University Intercollegiate FoundationBoard Member1999 - 2015
Legal cases
Case nameOutcome
Bomar v. BomarCircuit Court reversed by Court of Appeals
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Publication nameTitleDate
Family Law QuarterlyEthics For Mediators2015
Adoption: Practice and Forms For The Virginia LawyerFourth edition of treatise2008
University of Richmond Law ReviewAnnual Review-Law of Workers' compensation1991
University of Richmond Law Review"Education or Discrimination," Minimum Competency Testing1981
School nameMajorDegreeGraduated
University of Richmond, The T. C. Williams School of LawLawJD - Juris Doctor1981
Old Dominion UniversityHistoryBA - Bachelor of Arts1977
Speaking engagements
Conference nameTitleDate
Mediator Certification TrainingSupport, Equitable Distribution and Divorce2015
Annual Advanced Family Law ConferenceEthics For Lawyers2015
Continuing Legal EducationServicemembers Civil Relief Act2014
Mediator TrainingSpousal Support2011
2011 Virginia Women's ConferenceDivorce2011
Divorce For Navy LawyersSeparation Agreements/Divorce For Navy Lawyers2010