Mary G. Commander

Mary G. Commander

also known as CommanderLaw

4.6
Rating: 10.0

Licensed for 44 years

Divorce and separation Lawyer at Norfolk, VA
Practice Areas: Divorce & Separation, Mediation, Adoption ... +2 more

5442 Tidewater Drive, Norfolk, VA

About Mary

Biography

Practice Areas

5

Practice Areas

Divorce and Separation 45%

I handle contested and mediated divorces. I am trained in collaborative divorce and certified in mediation. I also handle non-traditional family separations, includiing property and custody disputes.

45 years

45%
Mediation 25%

Trained in all forms of mediation and collaborative divorce.

45 years

25%
Adoption 10%

I wrote the treatise on adoption for Virginia lawyers. I do the Adoptions for the Norfolk Department of Human Services. I handle contested, interstate, step-parent, agency and parental placement Adoptions.

45 years

10%
Child Custody 10%

I handle all areas of child custody and am a certified guardian ad litem for children.

45 years

10%
Family 10%

I handle all areas of family law including adoptions, divorce, child custody.

45 years

10%

Fees and Rates

Cost

Hourly Rates

$ 375-375 per hour


Payment Methods

  • Cash
  • Check
  • Credit Card

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Licenses

Licensed in Virginia for 44 years

State: Virginia

Acquired: 1981

Active

No misconduct found

Location

Law Offices of Mary G. Commander

5442 Tidewater Drive, Norfolk, VA, 23509

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Mary G. Commander's Reviews

Avvo Review Score

4.6 /5.0

34 Client Reviews

Showing 1 - 5 of 7 reviews | General Knowledge

Posted by Zach | September 12, 2023 | Hired Attorney | Divorce & Separation

Best divorce attorney!

Mary and Abby were incredible through my whole 3 year divorce. Very professional, knowledgeable, and they really care. I never once felt left behind or lost in the process.

Posted by anonymous | August 31, 2022 | Lawsuits & Disputes

Top Notch Advice

Mary Commander took the time to review my case, which seems unique and complex to me, but she was able break things down for me in a way I haven’t heard. Her kind, yet no-nonsense manner was exactly what I needed. She provided advice for how I should proceed in my case while also advising me to save ...money. Mary Commander’s skills and expertise as an attorney are clear, and you should hire her.

Posted by anonymous | September 06, 2019 | Hired Attorney | Family

So thankful I retained Mary and had her on my side!

Hands down, Mary Commander knows the Virginia family law, and practices civility and integrity from start to finish. Mary is tougher than nails and handles any high-conflict opposing counsel with ease. Mary is reasonable and the entire legal team will have you and your children’s best interest as a p...riority. Regardless, if you have mediation or need to go to court or trial, Mary is a strong litigator and will have your back. From the beginning, Emily (Mary’s receptionist) was prompt, patient with my numerous emails, and very responsive. Most of all, when things seemed bleak and overwhelming, Emily was considerate, patient, and kind with every one of my visits to their office. My first visit with Mary was a preemptive and strategic move as my ex had not filed a motion with the local court yet. Mary did not want to take a retainer fee unless needed. This was different than the 7 other attorneys I’d met with in the local area. Mary is 100% the epitome of integrity and is up front with you about your case and will NEVER charge you unnecessarily. For any other reviews that dislike what Mary might say, it is only because she will be honest and never sugarcoat any situation. This is what you need in an attorney and a legal team. Good or bad, you need an attorney and team that won’t run up the bill or be fake with you. A little bit after I met with Mary, the ex eventually filed numerous motions. I eventually retained Mary and had no regrets. I had approximately 60+ pages worth of discovery and questions to respond to. As chaotic as it might seem, Abby (Mary’s paralegal) made sure the process was seamless. Abby’s prompt communication and “hand-holding” made the prep for the court hearing much easier. In fact, Abby had even more experience and knowledge than my ex’s own attorney! The entire team kept me in the loop and made sure all my questions and concerns were promptly addressed even with Mary’s schedule. Mary and Abby knew the best cases to cite for my particular situation to get the motion filed against me dismissed. Its true you never know what a judge might say or decide, but the team at Commander Law will do everything they can to ensure your things go in your favor. There is nothing more reassuring and uplifting than seeing Mary in action in a courtroom. It‘s a great feeling when Mary and her team are fully prepared and state your case eloquently while opposing counsel continue to stumble in their responses to the points Mary brings up. I know that my ex will continue ongoing/future frivolous litigation, but as long as I have Mary on my side, I know it will be okay.

Posted by Vicki | September 13, 2018 | Hired Attorney | Child Custody

Couldn’t ask for a better lawyer!!

Went through a long and complicated custody case that involved CPS and the police because of my scheming ex. Ms. Commander was able to help me through all of the crazy shenigans and get me exactly what I asked for. She will be the only lawyer you’ll ever need. She is very knowledgeable and knows how ...to get the job done while maintaining integrity. A rare a true gem among lawyers!! She embodies and represents the standard that every lawyer should emulate!!

Posted by Aaron | September 24, 2015 | Hired Attorney | Divorce & Separation

Highly Recommend

I had the misfortune of going through the divorce process while deployed overseas. It was incredibly stressful. Ms. Commander provided excellent legal counsel and was able to work with me while deployed. She is prompt in replies. She gave me superb legal advice and speaks plainly and directly. S...he was instrumental in successfully negotiating a separation agreement and finalizing the divorce. I highly recommend!

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Mary G. Commander's Lawyer Endorsements

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Lori Michaud

Family lawyer | Jun 02

Relationship: Opposing Counsel on matter

"Mary has been a fierce adversary on several contested matters -- yet she is always professional and pleasant to work with."

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John Cooper

Divorce and separation lawyer | Feb 02

Relationship: Fellow lawyer in community

"Mary is a very experienced and accomplished attorney who works in adoption and workers' compensation. She is very smart. I have sent her cases for years."

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Cheshire Eveleigh

Mediation lawyer | Feb 02

Relationship: Fellow lawyer in community

"I have used Mary as a mediator in family law cases and have found her to be a very effective mediator."

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Cynthia Ewing

Adoption lawyer | Feb 02

Relationship: Fellow lawyer in community

"I endorse this lawyer."

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Suanne Bryant

Family lawyer | Feb 01

Relationship: Opposing Counsel on matter

"I proudly endorse Mary. She has an excellent reputation among her peers because she treats her colleagues with respect and does not engage in the gamesmanship so often prevalent in family law. She is nevertheless a tireless and effective advocate for her clients."

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Justin Bush

Divorce and separation lawyer | Jan 29

Relationship: Fellow lawyer in community

"I have been involved with numerous cases with Ms. Commander. She has a superior knowledge of the law, and her client's enjoy her expertise in the family law area. I highly endorse her."

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Brent Rowlands

Divorce and separation lawyer | Oct 22

Relationship: Opposing Counsel on matter

"I endorse this lawyer."

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Linda Shin

Divorce and separation lawyer | Jan 27

Relationship: Opposing Counsel on matter

"I have worked as opposing counsel with Mary on a number of cases. She is sharp, knowledgeable, and tenacious in court, yet extremely personable and able to work well in a non-adversarial role, too. Mary's clients are always well-represented."

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Jim Hurley

Family lawyer | Oct 22

Relationship: Fellow lawyer in community

"I endorse this lawyer."

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Hovanes Margarian

Adoption lawyer | Jul 30

Relationship: Fellow lawyer in community

"I endorse this lawyer."

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James Wilson

Family lawyer | Feb 06

Relationship: Fellow lawyer in community

"I endorse this lawyer. I am familiar with the quality of her work through my research of case law in Virginia in which she has been involved as counsel for one of the parties."

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Matisyahu Wolfberg

Adoption lawyer | Nov 07

Relationship: Fellow lawyer in community

"I endorse this lawyer."

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Michael Thomas

Family lawyer | Sep 17

Relationship: Fellow lawyer in community

"I endorse this lawyer. Ms. Commander's reputation in the Tidewater area is unbelievable as one of the top attorneys in the area. She has even co-authored a couple CLE books that I have in my office that I consider an invaluable resource."

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Michael Strong

Divorce and separation lawyer | Jan 26

Relationship: Fellow lawyer in community

"I endorse this lawyer. I have known Mary from many years in the Tidewater area, as a top rate lawyer with a real passion for helping her clients. I know her work to be among the best in the Tidewater Domestic Relations bar. Although my practice is now in Northern Virginia, I would recommend her to anyone seeking legal help."

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Michael Waddington

Family lawyer | Oct 20

Relationship: Fellow lawyer in community

"I endorse this lawyer."

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Howard Lewis

Divorce and separation lawyer | Jul 10

Relationship: Fellow lawyer in community

"I endorse this lawyer. Attorney Commander is an outstanding attorney with an excellent reputation. She is a strong and zealous advocate for her clients and a credit to the legal profession. I highly endorse her."

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Neil Bonney

Divorce and separation lawyer | Oct 25

Relationship: Fellow lawyer in community

"I highly endorse this lawyer's work."

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Experience

Rating:  10.0 (Superb)

Honors

2015

Client's Choice Award, Avvo

2015

Top 50 Women Lawyers in Virginia, SuperLawyers

2015

Best Lawyers in Hampton Roads, Coastal Virginia Magazine

2015

Legal Elite Family Law, Virginia Business Magazine

2015

Family Law, SuperLawyers

2015

Family Law and Family Mediation, Best Lawyers in America

2014

Family Law, SuperLawyers

2014

Family Law, "Legal Elite"

2013

"Legal Elite"-Alternative Dispute Resolution, Virgnia Business Magazine

2012

"Top 50 Women Lawyers in Virginia", SuperLawyers

2012

"AV" Rating, Martindale-Hubbell

2012

SuperLawyer-Family Law, Law & Politics Magazine

2011

SuperLawyer-Family Law, Law & Politics Magazine

2010

"Legal Elite" in Domestic Relations, Virginia Business Magazine

2010

SuperLawyer, Law & Politics Magazine

2009

SuperLawyer, Law and Politics Magazine

2008

Family Law Section Public Service Award, Virginia State Bar

2008

Leaders In The Law, Virginia Lawyers Weekly

2007

Jefferson Award For Public Service (Regional Award Winner), American Institute For Public Service

2007

Entrepreneur of the Year (Finalist), National Ass'n of Women Business Owners

2006

Woman Of the Year (Law), YWCA

Work Experience

2010 - Present

Partner, Commander & Carlson, Attorneys And Mediators

2000 - 2010

Owner, Mary G. Commander, Attorney & Certified Mediator

2000 - 2007

Substitute Judge, Norfolk Juvenile and General District Courts

1985 - 2000

Partner, Goldblatt, Lipkin & Cohen, P.C.

1983 - 2003

Administrative Hearing Officer, Commonwealth of Virginia

1982 - 1985

Associate, Heilig, McKenry & Fraim

1981 - 1982

Law Clerk to Hon. John A. MacKenzie, U.S. District Judge, United States District Court (E.D. Va)

Associations

2013 - Present

American Bar Association

Fellow

2013 - Present

Virginia State Bar, Family Law Section

Board of Governors

2007 - Present

National Center For Family Law

Board Member

2004 - Present

International Academy of Collaborative Professionals

Member

2004 - Present

Virginia Academy of Collaborative Professionals

Member

2000 - Present

Better Business Bureau

Member

1995 - Present

Member

Virginia Mediation Network

1985 - Present

Virginia Women Attorneys Association (Norfolk Chapter)

Past President Local Chapter and Member

1983 - Present

Virginia Trial Lawyers Association

Member

1983 - Present

Norfolk-Portsmouth Bar Association

Law Library Board Member

1980 - Present

American Bar Association

Member

Family Law Association of Hampton Roads

Member

National Council of Juvenile and Family Court Judges

Member

2001 - 2004

Virginia State Bar

Circuit Representative

1999 - 2015

Old Dominion University Intercollegiate Foundation

Board Member

Sample of Legal Cases

Bomar v. Bomar

Circuit Court reversed by Court of Appeals

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Education

1981

University of Richmond, The T. C. Williams School of Law

JD - Juris Doctor

1977

Old Dominion University

B.A.

Speaking Engagements

2015

Mediator Certification Training

Support, Equitable Distribution and Divorce

2015

Annual Advanced Family Law Conference

Ethics For Lawyers

2014

Continuing Legal Education

Servicemembers Civil Relief Act

2011

Mediator Training

Spousal Support

2011

2011 Virginia Women's Conference

Divorce

2010

Divorce For Navy Lawyers

Separation Agreements/Divorce For Navy Lawyers

Publications

2015

Family Law Quarterly Ethics For Mediators

2008

Adoption: Practice and Forms For The Virginia Lawyer Fourth edition of treatise

1991

University of Richmond Law Review Annual Review-Law of Workers' compensation

1981

University of Richmond Law Review "Education or Discrimination," Minimum Competency Testing

Languages

Spanish

English

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