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As clients navigate the turbulent waters of divorce, they need clarity as to where they want to go and they need resources to help them get there.  Mary assists clients in developing a “vision” of where they want to be in the future, and in putting in place the “pieces” necessary to achieve that vision.


For the client who feels overwhelmed, beleaguered, diminished, or is experiencing life as confusing and chaotic, Mary excels in helping to develop strategies and skills to address those feelings and in achieving the client’s unique desired outcome. Understanding the very real and raw emotions of clients in divorce, Mary encourages them to balance their feelings with actions that will lead to long-term benefits for them and their children. 


Mary is particularly skillful and creative in getting a divorce process underway which embodies the client’s values for the divorce – values such as dignity, integrity and respectfulness -- as well as at keeping the needs of the children first and foremost in the process. She recognizes that divorce affects the whole person and is adept at bringing resources from the financial, mental health, estate planning and other professions to address all of a client’s needs.


Mary has been a leader in bringing the Collaborative Divorce model to the Washington, D.C. metropolitan area, and in supporting excellence in the practice of Collaborative Law in this area.  She chaired the Collaborative Law Committee of the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers ("AAML" from 2005 through 2010 and served as the President of the DC Academy of Collaborative Professionals from 2013-2014.  She has presented numerous times on various aspects of Collaborative practice both to local and national professionals.


Mary is a tough, take charge advocate for her client in any process, and brings a sophisticated knowledge of complex financial matters to her practice.  She prides herself on being highly organized and thorough in her preparation at all stages of the client’s matter. Clients appreciate her zeal and perseverance in pursuing every possible remedy to achieve results tailored to the client’s particular situation. Typically beginning the divorce process in a state of dismay and uncertainty, clients complete it with a sense of empowerment thanks to Mary’s relentless efforts on their behalf.


Practice areas


  1. Divorce: 100%
    32 years

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Feldesman Tucker Leifer Fidell LLP

1129 20th Street N. W. 4th Floor
Washington, DC, 20036


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Legal answers
Award nameGrantorDate granted
Super LawyerWashington, D.C. Super Lawyers2015
Best Lawyer, Washington, D.C.Best Lawyers2015
Top 50 Women Lawyers, Washington, D.C.Washington, D.C. Super Lawyers2015
Best Lawyer, Washington, D.C.Best Lawyers2014
Super LawyerWashington, D.C. Super Lawyers2014
Top 50 Women Lawyers, Washington, D.C.Washington, D.C. Super Lawyers2014
Super LawyerWashington, D.C. Super Lawyers2013
Best Lawyer, Washington, D.C.Best Lawyers2013
Top 50 Women Lawyers, Washington, D.C.Washington DC Super Lawyers2013
Top 50 Women Lawyers, Washington, D.C.Super Lawyers2012
Super LawyerWashington DC Super Lawyers2012
Best Lawyer, Washington, D.C.Best lawyers2012
Top 50 Women Washington, D.C. AreaWashington, D.C. Super Lawyers2011
Top Family Law attorneyWashingtonian Magazine2011
Super LawyerWashington DC Super Lawyers2011
Top Women Lawyers in the NortheastMartindale-Hubbell2011
Top 50 Women Washington, D.C. AreaSuper Lawyers2010
Super LawyerWashington DC Super Lawyers2010
Top Family Law attorneyWashingtonian Magazine2009
Super LawyerWashington DC Super Lawyers2009
Super LawyerWashington DC Super Lawyers2008
Super LawyerWashington DC Super Lawyers2007
Top Family Law attorneyWashingtonian Matgazine2007
Top 50 Women Washington, D.C. AreaSuper Lawyers2007
Top Matrimonial lawyerWashingtonian Magazine2004
Top Matrimonial lawyerWashingtonian Magazine2000
Top Matrimonial lawyerWashingtonian Magazine1995
FellowPhi Beta Kappa1967
AV ratingMartindale and HubbellN/A
Work experience
TitleCompany nameDuration
Divorce and Collaborative Family LawyerFeldesman Tucker Leifer Fidell LLP1984 - Present
Association namePosition nameDuration
D.C. Academy of Collaborative ProfessionalsPresident-Elect2012 - Present
Montgomery County Bar AssociationMemberN/A
Maryland State Bar AssociationMemberN/A
International Academy of Collaborative ProfessionalsMemberN/A
Maryland Collaborative Practice CouncilFounding Member and Board MemberN/A
The American Academy of Matrimonial LawyersChair of the Collaborative Law CommitteeN/A
Legal cases
Case nameOutcome
Bliss v. Bliss, 733 A.2d 954 (D.C. 1999)In this international custody case, we prevailed at both the trial level and in the appellate court.
Wilkinson v. Wilkinson 785 F.Supp. 1037 (1992)My client, the wife, prevailed in this case involving her entitlement to receive a share of her ex-husband's Foreign Service pension.
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Publication nameTitleDate
Feldesman Tucker web siteCreating Your Future after Divorce - Working through Anxiety to PossibilityN/A
School nameMajorDegreeGraduated
George Washington University National Law CenterLawJD - Juris Doctor1984
University of MichiganN/AMS - Master of Science1971
University of MichiganN/ABS - Bachelor of Science1967
Speaking engagements
Conference nameTitleDate
Trusts, Estates & Probate Section, DC BarCollaborative Practice in the Trusts & Estates Field2013