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Beth Marie Appelsmith

Mediation Attorney at Sacramento, CA

4.8   16 reviews
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  • Licensed for 37 years
    State CA
    Acquired 1986
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Practice areas
  1. Mediation
    Alternative dispute resolution through mediation or Collaborative Practice.

    28 years

  2. Divorce and separation
    Representation in divorce and legal separation matters, outside of court through Collaborative Practice

    33 years

  3. Family
    Representation in out of court Family Law cases- divorce consulting, document drafting and preparation, premarital and post-marital agreements

    33 years

Divorce without going to court in a respectful and supportive environment. I offer out-of-court dispute resolution through either mediation or Collaborative Practice, which are positive and cost-effective alternatives to traditional litigation.

In mediation, an impartial person (the mediator) helps people reach an agreement they can each accept. The mediator helps people talk the issues through in a way that often makes it easier for the couple to settle the dispute themselves. Mediators do not make decisions. Agreements can only be reached if everyone agrees. The mediator will not force you to agree to anything. Even if you do not think you will be able to agree to everything, mediation can help resolve some issues, so that you can concentrate on the issues you have not resolved and have a judge make the decision on those.

Collaborative Pratice is a relatively new process in which a divorcing couple, together with their Collaborative attorneys and other trained professionals, work as a team to resolve disputes respectfully without going to court. Collaborative Practice and mediation can protect children from the negative effects of divorce, while allowing participants a wide range of settlement options, confidentiality, civility, and control of their own process. 

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Beth Marie Appelsmith


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Posted by Eddie | October 31, 2016
This review is from a person who hired this attorney.
| Hired Attorney
Words cannot describe how thankful I am I was referred to and decided to retain Beth when I was going through my divorce. If you are reading this review because you are going through a divorce yourself, then you already know how physically, mentally and emotionally draining it is. From day one, Beth was very attentive and sympathetic to the details of my case. As we progressed through the process, I quickly realized the difference in the level professionalism, experience and integrity she brought to my case when compared to the opposing counsel. There was no comparison to be made. I believe if not for Beth’s experience, guidance and the strategy she implemented in my case I would still be going through the process and would’ve never obtained the very fair Marriage Settlement Agreement she negotiated on my behalf. I cannot stress the words honesty and integrity enough when describing her. All too often I would walk into her office ready to explode and walk out knowing I was in good hands. I quickly realized my best strategy moving forward was to trust her and just put it all in her hands. I did and my only regret I have now is that I didn’t retain her sooner. I would recommend Beth to anyone looking for an excellent attorney to consult or retain during their divorce, but if it was someone I cared about, I would insist. Beth I cannot thank you enough for everything you did for me.
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Posted by Kathryn | January 7, 2016
This review is from a potential client who consulted with this attorney.
| Consulted Attorney
Generous and considerate
My consultation with Atty. Appelsmith was great. Beth was considerate and generous with her time. She doesn't rush or seem impatient. She was listening attentively to all my questions and was able to answer all of them. She is professional with a heart.
Posted by Susan | December 29, 2014
Expert help even in the midst of an office move
After speaking with Beth Appelsmith for only a few minutes at our first meeting, I knew I could trust her, and my trust was well placed. She helped me think through and complete a pre-nuptial agreement on a very rushed timeline. Her calm approach and insights, as well as her advice gave me the confidence to sign the agreement with full knowledge of the consequences and benefits of doing so.
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Posted by Melody | December 12, 2014
About two years ago I had the unfortunate need for a divorce attorney. I had been referred to Beth by an individual I respected. Once I had contacted Beth she was prompt in returning my call and setting an initial appointment. During the appointment Beth gave me an overall idea what I might expect. Beth was clear and concise about her fees and asked me a number of questions and most important, really listened to me as I told my story. As the divorce progressed Beth offered advice and educated me on the process I had never been through before. When issues arose and I would respond from an emotional perspective, Beth was very helpful in reminding me that this process required a business minded approach. This was a great help to me as it supported where I was but reminded me of the task at hand. I found Beth Appelsmith to be not only extremely knowledgeable but more importantly a professional with great integrity. I have referred her to others who have reported a similar experience. Because of the work I do, I have heard other individuals' experiences in their divorces. I have been appalled by many of the experiences they have shared with me. I am forever grateful to have had Beth Appelsmith as my legal representative throughout an experience that was so difficult.
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Posted by Cece | April 11, 2014
Highly recommend Beth!
Beth came recommended by a coworker, and I'm glad I transferred my case to her. She is very knowledgeable and experienced and counseled me well. Going through the divorce was very trying and emotional for me. It was hard to be reasonable to reach decisions about custody, support, distribution of assets. But, Beth had a skillful way to calm my emotional state. She was empathetic in her approach and was able to get me to see the big picture for best interest my children and my financial future. She clearly and concisely explained the issues and placed them into perspective. She and her assistant, Caroline, quickly responded to my phone calls and emails and regularly kept me updated on my case. I am very happy with the service provided and the final settlement reached. I will definitely recommend her service!
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Posted by Debra | February 21, 2014
Excellent Divorce Attorney
Beth is extremely knowledgeable and helpful. She took the time to understand the details of my particular situation. She walked me through the process while being extremely professional yet caring. She is excellent.
Posted by Jessica | November 24, 2012
very helpful and kind attorney throughout the collaborative divorce process
Beth was my attorney during the collaborative divorce process. She was always encouraging and supportive and kind. I trusted her completely, and she worked very well with the rest of our collaborative divorce team. I highly recommend Beth and the collaborative divorce process to anyone in need of ending their marriage, and who is concerned about the emotional health and wellbeing of their children. At times, the process seemed grueling and like it would never end. But the time (and money) was definitely well spent, as my children seem to be very well adjusted and unharmed by the potential negative effects of divorce. I also feel as though my emotions were well handled and appropriately funneled to meet our needs. Beth worked beautifully with the rest of the collaborative divorce team, and her positivity and kindness were especially helpful to me during this most difficult time. I will always be so ever grateful to her and the work she put in on my (and my children's) behalf. Thank you, Beth. I wish you the best always!
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Posted by Michelle | October 4, 2012
Thank You!
Paragraph taken from my "thank you" letter I wrote to Beth when we closed my divorce file: Working with you brought sense and sanity to my living nightmare. You always returned my calls timely and when we spoke I was impressed with how well you listened to what I had to say. You would listen and ask questions during our conversations until you believed you had all of the information available. You dealt in facts, not feelings. Your written correspondence was articulate, accurate direct and powerful, resulting in desired outcomes. Your referrals to the right team of professionals, an objective Child Mediator and a talented Certified Financial Planner were also strategic moves that helped navigate the process. We were able to reach a settlement and produce a parenting plan that granted me the majority of parenting time. Thank you for being tough and sensitive. Thank you for being my "Big Guns" after all.
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Posted by anonymous | October 4, 2012
Hopefully, you can avoid a divorce, but if you can't...
Working through a divorce can be costly. and it's not particularly fun. If you HAVE to go through this process, you want someone who is knowledgeable, respectful of the resources and objectives of the parties involved (hopefully, a mediated settlement because it's better for all involved), and who keeps you adequately apprised of developments and timelines. I found Beth Appelsmith to be excellent in all respects. She's very professional and as efficient as you give her guidance to be. She knows the law and gives advice based upon her knowledge of the law and experiences. She is also just plain nice---the kind of person you would probably want as a friend, though, everyone should be clear, that's not why you hire an attorney. I had to hire Beth to counsel me through a mediation; she would also probably be a terrific mediator or lawyer to counsel both parties in trying to reach a marriage settlement agreement.
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Posted by Paul | November 2, 2011
Lawyer you can trust
Beth was very trustworthy thought my entire divorce process. She charged very reasonable fee adn all charges are clearly stated in her invoices. With her help and advise my divorce was settled without any complications. Thank you.
Posted by KATHIE | December 7, 2010
Beth Appelsmith My Outstanding Attorney
Beth was totally engaged in my case from the very beginniing. It was a very hard time for me after a very long marriage. She immediately felt like a friend who would be on my side through the whole process. Beth was always very professional and always talked to me when I needed her. I would recommend her to anyone who needs an outstanding attorney.
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Posted by RR | December 25, 2009
Excellent attorney
Beth is a very knowledgeable and effective attorney. She treats all parties fairly, honestly, and with respect. She was always available, and handeled every aspect of my case with care and patience. She is also very well respected by her peers and judges. My commendation to beth for her professionalism, her kindness, and a job well done.
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Posted by Richard | November 3, 2009
Legal Consulting
Beth was my consulting attorney as I handled my divorce. I had the unfortunate experience of working with a law firm that did not truly value their client by providing supervision to one of their staff attorneys. Consequently, I decided to complete the process on my own, dealing with a number of complex matters. Beth was a partner in my efforts and assisted in reviewing my drafts, drafting a support modification order, and providing advice and perspective on the process and characters I was facing. She made herself available at critical negotiation points, and helped me finalize a dissolution order. Her assistance was invaluable and a much more cost effective option than the one I had been pursuing.
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Posted by Charlene | September 25, 2009
Collaborative Divorce
Beth is extremely knowledgeable and compassionate. She guided me through the collaborative divorce process with care and wisdom, and I always felt confident with her advice. She represented me with assertive dignity, addressing and resolving many issues of a long term marriage, for which I will always be grateful.
Posted by Lezlie | September 24, 2009
Beth Appelsmith review
Beth represented me in a divorce/child custody issue. I felt that she was not only very knowledgeable, but extremely compassionate in what was a very difficult situation for me. I have recommended her to several friends and they have been equally pleased with her performance.
Posted by anonymous | August 9, 2022
This review is from a person who hired this attorney.
| Hired Attorney
Don’t get a collaborative divorce
Do yourself a favor and don’t buy into the fairy tale appeal of a collaborative divorce. My collaborative divorce was quite expensive (over twenty thousand) and since there was no “formal discovery”, my ex wasn’t truthful and the settlement was very unfair to me. There seems to be no clear cut rules for collaborative divorce; if you verbally agree to something, it is regarded as if you signed off formally on it. Get a “real divorce” and get on with your life!
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Work Experience

  • Attorney Mediator
  • Beth Appelsmith Law and Medaition Offices
  • 2000 - Present
  • Associate
  • The Harris Law Firm
  • 1987 - 1999


  • McGeorge School of Law, University of the Pacific
  • JD - Juris Doctor
  • 1986
  • Oregon State University
  • BS - Bachelor of Science
  • N/A

Sample of Legal Cases

  • Collaborative Premarital Agreement
  • The parties were able to reach full agreement in a mutual, nonadversarial process, that much better suited their interests and intention as a couple.


  • Board of Directors, Sacramento Collaborative Practice Group
  • Board Member, Court LIaison
  • 2008 - Present
  • Child Custody Subcommittee of Family Law Executive Committee
  • Board Member
  • 2007 - Present
  • International Academy of Collaborative Professionals
  • 2001 - Present
  • Sacramento Superior Court
  • Judge Pro Tem
  • 2000 - Present
  • Sacramento County Bar Association, Family Law Section
  • 1990 - Present
  • State Bar of California
  • N/A
  • Minor's Counsel Executive Committee
  • Board Member
  • 2011 - 2020
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Languages Spoken

  • English

Honors and Awards

  • Super Lawyers Northern California
  • SuperLawyers
  • 2024
  • Super Lawyers Northern California
  • SuperLawyers
  • 2023
  • Top Attorneys in Sacramento
  • Sacramento Magazine
  • 2022
  • Super Lawyers
  • Super Lawyers Northern California
  • 2022
  • Super Lawyer Northern California
  • SuperLawyers
  • 2021
  • Top Attorneys in Sacramento
  • Sacramento Magazine
  • 2020
  • Top Attorneys in Sacramento
  • Sacramento Magazine
  • 2019
  • Top Attorneys in Sacramento
  • Sacramento Magazine
  • 2017
  • Top Attorneys in Sacramento
  • Sacramento Magazine
  • 2016
  • Top Attorneys in Sacramento
  • Sacramento Magazine
  • 2015
  • Best of the Bar
  • Sacramento Business Journal
  • 2013
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  • Sacramento Magazine
  • Top Lawyers in Sacramento (featured)
  • 2015
  • Sacramento Business Journal
  • Best of the Bar Profile
  • 2013
  • Sacramento Bee
  • More Couples Use Premarital Agreements
  • 2011
  • Sacramento Bee
  • Right and Wrong- Ethics Panel
  • 1998
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Speaking Engagements

  • CP Cal Statewide Conference, Redwood City CA
  • Effective Mandatory Disclosures in Collaborative Cases
  • 2016
  • Sacramento Collaborative Practice Group Meeting
  • Complex Collaborative Divorce with Special Needs Trust
  • 2014
  • Sacramento Collaborative Practice Group
  • Collaborative Post Nuptial Agreement Case Presentation
  • 2013
  • Member Education
  • Premarital and Relationship Agreements
  • 2011
  • "Ask a Lawyer"
  • Collaborative Practice
  • 2008
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Attorney endorsements

Received (5)
Given (9)
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Mediation Attorney | Nov 20
Relationship: Fellow lawyer in community
"I've been a colleague and friend of Beth's for more years than I can remember, and have worked or collaborated with her on several cases through the years. She is one of a very few mediators in Sacramento I trust enough to refer mediation cases to, when I can't take them (which should say a lot, coming from another Sacramento professional family mediator). Beth's strengths include having a lot of common sense; a fine memory for the law; and plenty of experience with difficult legal and family issues, which she uses to support clients who want to settle on reasonable and fair terms. She also has very good professional boundaries, which many other mediators do not have. Simply, one of the best family mediators in town."
Family Attorney | Nov 04
Relationship: Fellow lawyer in community
"I have known Beth for many years, and strongly endorse her. Beth is very knowledgeable, skilled, and effective, whether in her role as a client's advocate or as a neutral mediator. I especially appreciate Beth's openness and genuine desire to understand opposing viewpoints so that she can aid clients in obtaining a mutually satisfactory resolution. Beth is great at thinking "outside the box" and helping others do so to overcome obstacles to settlement. Beth is always a welcome addition to any case, committee and/or board as she uses her skill, kindness, gentle humor and persistent follow-through to get things done."
Family Attorney | Sep 30
Relationship: Fellow lawyer in community
"Beth is one of the most respected family law attorneys in town, not only for her years of experience, and accompanying knowledge, but also because of her integrity and overall sense of the big picture. These traits, when combined with her excellent people skills, make her a natural fit for mediation. She is also gifted at working within the framework of the collaborative practice model of dispute resolution. I have had the pleasure of working with her in both contexts and I highly endorse her. She is thoughtful, insightful, and professional."
Divorce and separation Attorney | Jul 13
Relationship: Fellow lawyer in community
"I have known Beth Appelsmith for over 25 years. She is an excellent attorney, especially skilled in mediation and collaborative law. She is highly regarded in the Sacramento family law legal community and known for her ability to assist individuals who want to resolve their family law issues between themselves without the intervention of court, if possible. Beth Appelsmith has the extraordinary ability to obtain resolution satisfactory to both parties in the most challenging of mediation and collaborative cases. Ms. Appelsmith is equally talented as a litigation attorney; her ability to succeed at the highest level as a family law attorney in mediation/collaboration and litigation demonstrates her superior abilities as an attorney. Ms. Appelsmith donates her time to the community by volunteering to serve on many family law committees. She also donates her time by representing minors when appointed by the court. I highly recommend her for any potential family law client/matter."
Divorce and separation Attorney | Sep 25
Relationship: Fellow lawyer in community
"Beth has been a colleague for over 14 years, during which I have had the pleasure of working with her on contested matters and in settlement negotiations. In emotionally-charged family law matters, it is often difficult to combine diligent representation with dignity and grace. Beth possesses the ability to maintain both while protecting her client's interests, whether it be a contested matter or cooperative mediation. I am happy to endorse Beth and recommend her highly. She is among the most experienced and knowledgeable members of the Sacramento Family Law community, and works earnestly for her clients in achieving equitable results."

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Sacramento Mediation Lawyer Beth Marie Appelsmith
Beth Marie Appelsmith
Mediation Attorney
Sacramento, CA
Licensed for 37 years
Virtual consultation available