A most capable attorney.
David helped me achieve very ambitious and perhaps unorthodox goals in what can only be called a very high conflict divorce. In more colorful terms, he saved the divorce from being a complete washout not only for me, but for my family.
Before I met David, my wife had successfully outmaneuvered me on nearly every front, originally leading me to believe she shared my vision of our divorce as a process of finding win-win solutions, avoiding court and dissolving our marriage thanks to independent, collaborative mediation. By the time I realized her duplicity, I was homeless, stripped of custody of our kids, on the verge of having to quit my graduate training program due to fraudulent charges of domestic violence, and facing the likelihood of having to pay child support. I was reeling, and my initial reflex was to seek a ruthless attorney with a thirst for annihilation who would help me strike back harder than anything my wife could imagine. I knew that would come at a huge cost, primarily in terms of immense suffering for our kids, but I reasoned that their suffering was guaranteed in the zero-sum game my wife was clearly intending to win in a quick rout. When I spoke with a couple of attorneys who seemed to fit the bill, I realized I might not have the belly for it. I was torn and had almost no prior experience to draw from.
David was clearly a different breed. He strongly applauded my original collaborative goals and insisted they were noble and worth fighting for. More importantly, he had a well argued plan of action that promised to negate my wife's aggression before matching it. As we began our work, David patiently helped me stay focused on our human decency, on our children's best interest, and on the all important financial bottom line, though he rarely hesitated to suggest ways of striking back with a vengeance if I felt such tactics might be necessary. They almost never were, regardless of how inflamed the issues became, no matter how wrathful my wife became, no matter how deeply my anxiety ran.
The outcome? In less than a year David and I got all terms resolved favorably, with everything, including legal AND physical custody, being split 50/50 and zero support due either party. Getting the final settlement and divorce in less than 12 months was pretty remarkable. It was the most difficult fight I've ever known, and it took nearly a complete overhaul of what I thought I knew of courage, but David's sense of my family's ability to surmount obstacles, with deft application of legal skills, was inspiring. I wish more divorcing families had the benefit of counsel such as his.