Gayle A. Caldarola

Gayle Caldarolla was Court Appointed. She immediately understood my position. I couldn't get over how quick thinking and compassionate she was. I had no money, and for that, I was so embarrassed. I feel Gayle Gayle still understood and had great empathy for my situation. I was hugely impressed with h...er rapport and compassion for my problem. I wish I could afford an attorney, but I found Gay was so bright and quickly understood things I didn't even understand. Personable, honest, and energetic. I did not expect that. Everyone from the Bail Bond people to other regular people told me how you could never depend on a court-appointed attorney, and in my case, I found that to be a completely false impression. She was so quick and smart, and I never felt that she looked down on me because of my financial situation. There was a time in my life when money was never an issue, but due to my pathological divorce situation, I was stripped of my career, home, and children's access. Needless to say, I would never have expected her to understand such a nightmare. I was "banished." I asked her frankly after she took the time to read just one paragraph of what happened to me, and she immediately admitted that she had never heard of that or seen it in her 38 years of legal practice. I admired her honesty and understanding, and I only wish I could pay her for what I believe is one of the most important issues facing Divorce Law and Family Courts today, as it was in 1987 when I read about this in my former husband's Psychiatry Journals. I've been aware of this quagmire since 1987 when my daughter was 6-7. She and I have suffered over this rhetorical mess of semantics for 36 years. She is now 42 years old, and it is still hanging in the air that the Mental Health and Legal Justice communities have STILL not been able to give this life-altering, damaging, and cruel issue. There IS something that they cannot seem to be able to "name." As Will said, "A rose by any other name would smell as sweet." They have been fighting over the rhetoric of this devastating family law debate since Richard Gardner first coined the term "Parental Alienation Syndrome." NOBODY, not anyone on either side of the aisle, seems to be able to comprehend this most devastating form of the Emotional/Psychological Abuse of a Child, DSM v.995.51, among others, to explain this most endlessly severe and life-altering psychological devastation and abuse of one's child. It is well known among the Psychological and Psychiatric Community that Child Sexual Abuse, Child Physical Abuse that Psychological and Emotional Abuse of a Child (or teen) is the worst form of lifelong, intractable, and almost impossible to help the state of abuse of a child, including adolescents and teens. No one (to my knowledge) has ever been able to pierce this veil of this condition's dishonesty and vile nature. I did not even have to say any of this to Gayle Caldarolla because it was evident that she "got it" within minutes. No arguments, no humiliation, no belittling of me, just an eye-to-eye understanding of the swamp I have lived with for the past 23 years. Her interpersonal skills are remarkable, and she seemed to possess a fantastic grasp of my issues without me speaking. She told me I could Take care of this for yourself. I went through an unreasonably litigious divorce, which ended in my banishment by a powerful expert witness within the courts who just happened to be the man I was married to. She got that. I want to say almost immediately, as a seasoned surgeon would immediately diagnose appendicitis. She read this one page so fast that I was astounded by her professional level of legal knowledge and understanding of this long overdue issue's horrific, devastating, life-destroying nature. I'm talking about malignant and narcissistic abuse and attachment-based separation of child and mother. I do not mean to be overzealous. She's a fantastic attorney.