What crime would it be if any in NY for a (ex-)spouse to pull a screwdriver out on you?

Usually aggravated assault if he did not actually make contact with u.

How can I get a no contact order dropped fast when I did not want it or it was not need bc the cop did not listen to me ?

Usually a no contact order is placed due to a domestic violence charge. Usually the defendant files the motion and you are there to testify.

How can I get out of a subpoena? Or testifying against him?

You don't. If you are called to testify, go tell the truth.

What charges does he have to. Press against u? Likely nothing. Do not buy his b's. Tell the truth and stand up for yourself. If drugs or alcohol...

Also, homeowners insurance could cover his liability if not the offender.

Can my husband still get out on his own Recogg

The only person who knows that is his lawyer.

Can my mom put a restraining order against my girlfriend, & includemy gf stay away from my son whom I have full custody of?

Yes. If you do not want it, you probably need to move out of her house.

Can I be held for contempt?

It is possible. If you do not go, be prepared to be arrested.

What last name does the baby take, can it be another mans last name or my maiden?

Yes, you can give the baby any name u want. Jesus. Elvis Presley. Cher. Whatever.

How can I apply for an international divorce based on abandonment and fraud if the law there states I must file there?

There is no such thing as an international divorce. There is a divorce which is recognized in other jurisdictions. File wherever u live now.