No. they can put who they want on the security team. You can always go to a new church if you don't like how they run things.

You should speak with a lawyer in your state. Also if you are in a union you should follow the steps of the grievence process. Best of luck.

You are at work to work so the short answer is YES. Just do your job and you can socialize with the female after work.

This isn't discrimination. You are an adult but live under their roof. Move out and get your own place is the easy solution.

Yes is the short answer. Sounds like the company did this to the whole department not just you. Therefore I don't see you being singled out.

Were you in a company vehicle? If so than yes, you are representing the company while driving. Best of luck.

In Illinois a person can be fired for any reason. You can file for unemployment and best of luck to you.

She should check with a lawyer in her state. Depending on how she is paid it may be an issue or may not be. More information is needed.

YES. If you can't do the job of course they need someone who can. Not sure why that is a big deal for you--you are going out on your FMLA leave...

You not signing a write up means nothing. You are an employee at will and can be fired at any time. Best of luck.