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Milan Pham

Adoption Attorney at Durham, NC

4.7   15 reviews

also known as Trinh Dang-Thuy Pham

  • State Years
    North Carolina - NC 22 years
    Maryland - MD 24 years
  • Licensed for 22 years
    State NC
    Acquired 2001
    Active No misconduct found
  • Licensed for 24 years
    State MD
    Acquired 1999
    Inactive No misconduct found

We have not found any instances of professional misconduct for this lawyer.

About Milan

Learn Milan’s areas of practice.

Practice areas
  1. Adoption
    Milan focuses her adoption practice on helping LGBT families with adoption, surrogacy, and artificial reproductive technology cases. NicholsonPham is pursuing, ensuring, and advocating for the rights of LGBT individuals and their families. We understand the special legal needs of the LGBT community and also assist with creating sperm donor agreements and egg donor agreements.

    16 years

  2. Divorce and separation

  3. Child custody

  4. Child support

  5. Family
    Until the law provides equal protections for all families, NicholsonPham is pursuing, ensuring, and advocating for the rights of LGBT individuals and their families. We understand the special legal needs of the LGBT community and assist with creating sperm donor agreements, egg donor agreements, parenting agreements, domestic partnership agreements, wills and powers of attorney, and litigation in the event it becomes necessary.

    16 years

  6. Marriage and prenuptials

I started my firm NicholsonPham PLLC to provide an alternative to clients seeking a different kind of legal experience.  At NicholsonPham, our slogan is "we speak your language." We do speak many languages at our firm including Spanish, French, Portuguese and  Vietnamese, as well as, small business, criminal defense, family of all kinds and more.  Visit our website at . 


NicholsonPham LLC
113 Broadway St.
Durham, NC, 27701


4.7 / 5.0
  15 customer reviews
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Posted by Joyce | March 11, 2021
This review is from a person who hired this attorney.
| Hired Attorney
Primo Legal Services with a Personal Touch
Through a separation, divorce and new estate planning documents, I received primo legal services with a personal touch that made the difficult journey so much easier to navigate. Milan Pham, Meredith Nicholson and their staff feel like family to me. I give them my highest recommendation.
Posted by Sarah | February 6, 2019
This review is from a person who hired this attorney.
| Hired Attorney
A superb estate planning experience
Milan's wisdom, insights, and calm demeanor helped my partner and I feel confident and knowledgeable in navigating a new and tough process. She listened to our concerns and answered all of our questions thoroughly. We're so grateful to now have this trusted relationship for any future legal matters.
Posted by anonymous | May 7, 2015
An extremely thoughtful, experienced lawyer; provided us with superb service and perspective
My partner and I reached out to Attorney Pham on a recommendation from a friend. We'd never worked with a lawyer before and we needed assistance with a domestic partnership agreement related to our new home and lives together as an unmarried couple. Milan was absolutely fantastic. She knew exactly how to approach our concerns and the agreement's key points in a way that left us feeling empowered to have what were sometimes tricky or hard conversations. Milan made sure that we knew and understood the legal implications of our decisions or potential decisions at all times, which is important when drafting such a document. We were given the time to think through our wishes and have conversations outside of her office as a couple, and she allowed us to propose our own alternate solutions and language when the "standard" language didn't quite fit. Working with Milan was a collaborative experience and we felt we were in good hands with her extensive experience and wisdom every step of the way. Our legal agreement and the process of creating it now feel like a milestone in our relationship and we are very proud of what we were able to accomplish with Milan's guidance and expertise. I'd recommend her to anyone who needs assistance with family law.
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Posted by Amy | September 17, 2013
Excellent adoption attorney
My partner and I were very pleased with Milan's work as the North Carolina attorney responsible for our son's adoption. We chose Milan and NicholsonPham because of their well-known work within the LGBT community, their close relationship with Sharon Thompson who is a member of the American Academy of Adoption Attorneys, and glowing recommendations from several friends. Milan was a pleasure to work with. She was very responsive to our questions and concerns. She was concise and clear in her communications both with us and other legal professionals involved in our case. The firm's billing process was transparent and detailed, providing us with a clear view of the services received. Our son's adoption decree was recently issued and we plan to continue our relationship with Milan and Meredith, her law partner, for our future legal needs.
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Posted by Michael | April 30, 2012
Great attorney, fantastic communicator.
Attorny Pham handled my rather delicate inter-personal legal issue with understanding, but also with a noticable touch of human kindness and consideration for both of us involved. I believe that it was her negotiation and fine inter-personal skills that helped quickly resolved the issue in a manner agreeable to both of us (we both signed and we are now done.) Great working with you, and I appreciate an individual who can read not only written words and listen to people talk, but also can tune in on non-verbal clues, and tone of voice clues, as Attorney Pham had to do in order to get my now -ex to agree to our separation agreement. Plus the agreement was just not all about me and my rights, she also included my -ex in many clauses protecting him from future claims, etc. which I had not requested, but I am also not a selfish man, so I said, "wow, she is good." I'd recommend her to you as someone how not only knows the law, but also other local lawyers and the court systems of both Durham and Wake Counties (more than those two I'm sure), but I lived in Wake County, and she was very familiar with how the courts and judges work up here. Thank you Milan.
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Posted by AJ | August 8, 2011
Trustworthy and Approachable
I was referred to Attorney Pham by a close friend and I was not disappointed. She was personable, knowledgeable, honest and kept me updated all along the legal way of my case. This was the first time I needed legal expertise and I was pretty skeptical of all lawyers in general prior to ever really needing one; however Attorney Pham quickly displaced my skepticism and replaced it with a kind and trustworthy affirmation that good lawyers really do exist! From our first meeting she explained the legal process involved in my case, described the possible work and length of time she would be billing me for and updated me at every point necessary throughout the legal process. We were able to settle my case within the best of possible circumstances and in a timely manner. Overall, I was impressed with her candid advice and her approachability, and I will consider her in the near future for the personal legal needs of me and my family.
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Posted by anonymous | March 11, 2011
traffic ticket disappeared
Everyone I interacted with at this firm was courteous and helpful. They clearly explained my legal situation and resolved my ticket very satisfactorily.
Posted by Beth | August 22, 2010
Milan Pham recently represented me in a family law case in Wake County. I found her to be a true professional throughout the entire process, both in and out of court. She was knowledgeable about the law, listened attentively to the facts of my situation, took time to answer my questions and prepare me for court, and represented me successfully. In court, she was thoroughly prepared, effectively examined and cross examined witnesses, introduced evidence, relentlessly built my case with facts, evidence, and legal precedents. In spite of the pressure of the case, I felt reassured and optimistic because Ms. Pham had prepared herself and me so well. And in the end, certainly because of the facts, but also due to Ms. Pham's dedication, preparation, and presentation, the judgment was in my favor. I would wholeheartedly recommend Milan Pham as an attorney to anyone needing the best legal representation.
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Posted by Drew | June 8, 2010
Would highly reccomend
MIlan recently represented me for the sale of my part of a small business. She (as well as her entire office) was extremely professional, knowledgeable & helpful. She was always patiently willing to explain legal issues or concepts that were new to me and was very communicative. With Milan I really felt like I had an advocate.
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Posted by Anne | April 12, 2010
Ms Pham did an exceptional job. She was very knowledgeable but when new issues arose she researched them very thoroughly. She also went far above and beyond the usual call of duty - even driving all the way to Charlotte to pick up paperwork for us so that it could be submitted to court by the deadline. I am sure that there aren't many lawyers who would do that.
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Posted by anonymous | November 24, 2009
Great support through difficult experience
I was very impressed with Ms. Pham when she made the effort to discover what outcome I really wanted in my legal dispute. I felt as if I had regained control in a situation that was out of my control. She presented all the information and options and let me choose what I was most comfortable with to act on.
Posted by Christopher | November 23, 2009
Happy to recommend
I met with Milan and her partner Meredith based on a family recommendation. They were the second of four meetings I had scheduled when I researched who I would be using to represent me in the legal matter I had. I contacted them because they were able to represent me both with the criminal charges filed against me and the family and child custody consequences of the criminal charges. I decided to work with Milan and her partner based solely on that initial interview and the feeling I had of them coming out of it. I felt they were far more personal than the other lawyers I had spoken with and considered their knowledge of their trade to be at least equal to that of the others. My choice served me very well. Through out the process what I appreciated most was their commitment to communicate. I never had any doubt that I was being taken care of or was receiving their best work. Their response to questions that came up for me was quick and complete. The process and my options were talked through each time we spoke making clear what was needed from me and what they would be doing to further the ball along. When the process reached trial the legal points they prepared to argue and their skills with negotiating made the difference. We received an outcome far better than I was prepared for. I have had dealings with lawyers on only one other occasion and can only hope that in the event I have a legal need in the future, I will be taken care of as well as I was by Milan and her partner Meredith. I am happy to recommend Milan for legal services and when I have Legal needs in business I will be seeking NicholsonPham LLC. for their services in that arena also. Milan, Thank you for your time, your efforts, and your great work. Very Sincerely Christopher
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Posted by anonymous | September 8, 2009
Incorporation Matter
Milan Pham assisted me in setting up a PLLC for a solo-practice law firm and provided not only advice regarding the narrow matters of business association, but also helpful information about various issues facing me as an attorney about to embark on his first business venture. In doing so, she offers skills as a counselor as well as an attorney. I highly recommend her for folks like me: new to business and in need of prudential advice as well as nuts-and-bolts services.
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Posted by anonymous | August 27, 2009
Liberacion Juice Station LLC
Ms. Pham was extemely knowledgeable, helpful and very friendly. In no way was she ever condescending (which I have found with other attorneys) and went above and beyond to fulfill her duties.
Posted by Semir | February 2, 2024
This review is from a person who hired this attorney.
| Hired Attorney
Stay Away -Lack of Communication and Urgency an Issue
STAY AWAY IF YOU DON'T WANT TO LOSE YOUR SURROGATE. It appears communication is not at the top of their list. Me and my wife hired Milan Phan to complete our Surrogacy agreement with our surrogate. Because of their lack of urgency we may have lost our surrogate. They have been working on it for 3 months, an agreement that we already had completed. Meaning they didn't need to negotiate anything. When I reached out to them to get guidance on things, they actually thought I had my own attorney. Something we never expressed and find extremely weird to be honest. Regardless, we cleared that matter up and I have now called 3 times to request a call back from our attorney over a 10 day mark with NO response. My next step is contacting the North Carolina Bar and reporting them for lack of communication. Something an attorney can lose their license for. I just find it crazy that I have to threaten that to get a response from our attorney.
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  • Hourly Rates $ 75-250 per hour
  • Retainer Sometimes
Payment methods
Cash, Check, Credit Card


AVVO RATING 9.8 (Superb)

Work Experience

  • Member Manager
  • NicholsonPham PLLC
  • 2009 - Present
  • Director of NC LEAP
  • North CarolinaBar Association Foundation
  • 2007 - 2009
  • Director
  • Orange County Human Rights and Relations Department
  • 2003 - 2007
  • Senior Civil Rights Specialist
  • Orange County Human Rights and Relations
  • 2001 - 2003
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  • University of North Carolina School of Law
  • Juris Doctor
  • 1999
  • North Carolina State University
  • Bachelor of Arts
  • 1996


  • Family Law Institute of the LGBT Bar
  • Member
  • 2014 - Present
  • Durham Orange Women Attorneys
  • Vice President for Outreach
  • 2011 - Present
  • Durham County Bar Association, Public Service Committee
  • Member
  • 2010 - Present
  • Steering Committee Member
  • 2009 - Present
  • Durham Orange Women Attorneys
  • Member
  • 2009 - Present
  • NC Association of Women Attorneys
  • Member
  • 2009 - Present
  • North Carolina Legal Education Assistance Foundation
  • Board Member
  • 2009 - Present
  • North Carolina Bar Association
  • Member
  • 2007 - Present
  • Durham County Bar Association
  • Member
  • 2001 - Present
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Languages Spoken

  • Vietnamese
  • Spanish
  • English

Honors and Awards

  • Fellow
  • Academy of Adoption and Assisted Reproductive Attorneys
  • 2018
  • Women Rainmakers
  • ABA Law Practice Management Section’s Law Practice Today Magazine
  • 2013
  • Friday Fellowship
  • Wildacres Leadership Initiative
  • 2008

Speaking Engagements

  • 2011 NCBA Annual Review
  • Mentoring, Role Models and Professionalism
  • 2011
  • New Admittee Professionalism Program
  • Mentoring and Role Models
  • 2011
  • Center for Practice Management Start Up Boot Camp
  • Where to Hang Your Shingle? Commercial Lease Agreements
  • 2010
  • Smart Start National Conference 2009
  • Excellence in Non Profit Governance Post Sarbanes Oxley
  • 2009
  • Patent Treaty Cooperative Seminar
  • Ethics
  • 2008
  • Spanglish
  • Title VI of the Civil Rights Act
  • 2007
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Attorney endorsements

Received (7)
Given (1)
Endorse Milan
Business Attorney | May 16
Relationship: Fellow lawyer in community
"Milan is a thoughtful, concerned and appropriately attentive attorney. She cares about her clients and the community. She is a positive force for Durham. I would not hesitate to recommend her or work with her."
Adoption Attorney | Apr 17
Relationship: Worked together on matter
"I endorse this lawyer. I needed near immediate assistance on an ICPC adoption, and Milan knew what to do AND treated our case as though it was her only case. The quality and timeliness of her work could not have been better. Thank you Milan!"
Business Attorney | Sep 05
Relationship: Fellow lawyer in community
"Milan does an exceptional job working hard to reach her client's goals and protecting his or her interests. In addition, she is a community leader who believes in supporting other local businesses."
Unknown Attorney | Apr 26
Relationship: Fellow lawyer in community
"I endorse this lawyer."
Criminal defense Attorney | Dec 28
Relationship: Fellow lawyer in community
"Smart lawyer."
Business Attorney | Mar 11
Relationship: Fellow lawyer in community
"I first met Milan when we were colleagues at the North Carolina Bar Association. While I was sorry to have her leave the Bar Association, our loss was a gain for the legal community in Durham, where Milan practices. I know Milan to be a smart, thoughtful, hard-working and ethical lawyer who really cares about her clients. I have no reservations about giving her my highest recommendation as a lawyer and a person."
Business Attorney | Mar 02
Relationship: Fellow lawyer in community
"I know Ms. Pham through her previous work as director of NC LEAP. She demonstrated many strengths - intellect, a strong work ethic, great communication and leadership skills, and integrity. Finding all of these characteristics and skills in a single attorney is rare. I have no hesitation endorsing Ms. Pham and actually have already recommended her to a friend."
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Durham Adoption Lawyer Milan Pham
Milan Pham
Adoption Attorney
Durham, NC
Licensed for 24 years

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