Yes

You need to discuss your case in detail with an attorney . You cannot continue to lie.

Do I risk being deported?

If your marriage is bona fide, you should not have problems.

I recently married a Japanese citizen here in San Diego County and we are both living here.

You can find an attorney on AVVO through "Find Lawyer" tab.

Can someone submit i-134 for fiance ,while already submitted I-864 for other relative .

Yes, you can. Look at form I-864P to seethe required income.

Have tourist visa and getting married

You have to be careful getting married less than 60 days after entering the U.S. it might be considered fraud because visitor's visa has...

EB2 masters degree equiv

Yes. No.

Are they spying on us?

No one spies on you unless you are a person of special interest. They might check your FB profile but it is not their practice especially for...

How prior should one file for extent ion for stay? What is Minimum time required?

You are in status while your application is pending . Do not forget to apply for immigration lottery.

Do I need an immigration attorney for naturalization case? 1+ year and still pending "background check"

The is an exception that might speed it up - critical medical condition, if you have one.