My recommendation is get yourself into a lawyer asap and be very careful about what you post online. This discussion should really be behind closed...

To add to my colleague, generally you cannot recover arrears paid. It just goes toward future support.

Can my mom who has guardianship over my 2 son's get child support from the father of my oldest son, who is working?

Yes, he has an obligation to pay support retroactive to the date a petition is filed requesting support.

Also check with your local county bar association for pro bono and low bono attorney options.

My kids want to stay with me but they are under age?

It sounds like you need to get a time share specifically spelled out in a court order. You may need to file if the other parent is not honoring...

Go to the Court's website for your county. Look up forms. Try to fill it out on your own. If you are unable to, go to the family law facilitator...

Go to the Court House. Get your quickie civil ceremony. It will literally take 2 minutes and whala: married. You are technically married though...

I feel like I was tricked by the DA into testifying.

Yes, you did technically testify. You identified him. If you are giving testimony at trial or are going to be called as a witness later you can...

There is no "performing" a QDRO. It just must be drafted. It is a separate order from your judgment. Hire someone who prepares these frequently...

You will need to file in Sacramento for the time being. After you have lived in Placer county for 3 months you could file there.