The clerk of court and/or the plan would have that info.

Do I need full custody or just a statement from the mother to take my child overseas with me?

It depends on the nature of your relationship and whether a divorce action is pending. I would not rush to leave either way.

Why do I need a QDRO when my Judgment of Absolute Divorce and separation agreement states that I get 50% of spouse retirement.

Because the agreement and decree bind you and your ex, but the QDRO binds the plan.

Can an X wife living in another state file a QDRO Pro-Se wavering all interest in my pension?

Potentially yes, but the waiver has to be made in a written agreement, and should be incorporated into a court order.

I have been trying to complete a QDRO for 22 months now and my attorney does nothing to stop the continual delays, lies, redicul

Unfortunately, it is pretty common to wait a very long for plans to properly administer QDROs. That said, 22 months is longer than I have ever...

Can my employer stop me from retiring and hold up my 401k if there is no QDRO on file .

Potentially they can freeze all or a part of the benefit. Best thing to do is to get the QDRO done immediately to avoid this issue. It generally...

I had a qdro drawn up but they say I cannot have it until he retires, can I do anything to get it?

That is only correct in a narrow number of cases. Generally, most plans permit you to receive funds before retirement. What is the plan in...

Potentially it will affect the available funds in the account, so it is best to get the QDRO done first.

What I need to do after my qdro is ready and how I know if my qdro form is correctly fill out I did it on line.

You will need to hire an attorney to review it. The plan does not represent you, so their form is meant primarily to help them, and not you.

How difficult would it be to get a QDRO modified?

It is possible, but it is an uphill battle. Generally, a court could find you equally responsible for ensuring payment per its order, but...