You really need to be interviewed by a lawyer. Very complex, very fact-specific matter.

What to do when both parents petition for custody of the children.

There are rules of priority. Usually it is the first to file. The other party responds, and responding party then dismiss his/her petition....

If my children' mother and I are not married, can i still get a status quo order put in place ?

The answer to your question is No. The TPOR procedure authorized by statute.

What 8s the next step in a contested divorce after the respondent filed thier responce?

Your case is just "stuck." You need to consult with an experienced family law lawyer to get it "un-stuck." You need to file a motion for temporary...

If all agree, have someone write up an appropriate legal papers (probably a stipulated judgment, but it could be something else) and the transfer...

Does third party contact include the viewing/possession of pictures or videos of functions that doesn't send a message?

My guess would be no, it is not contact. But, ask your PO to be sure.

consult a probate or wills and estate lawery immediately

Can a PO "tap" your cellphone? If you get married, while no contact order is in place, will PO know?

You are asking lawyers in a public forum to advise you on how to evade a court order. If you are going to persist in this, you and he should...

How can i get my ex to let me talk to kids.? She left me and moved 1000 miles away

A lawyer would need to know many more facts to help you. Consult with a lawyer experienced in interstate custody matters. You may or may not...

Many factors beyond what you posted must go into the decision to change custody. Before starting this fight, you should consult an experienced...