You do not need to do all of that. Just concern yourself with box 1, box 2, and box 3 (assuming that you have done all of that already).

What should I do?

In which city, state, and county did your husband get divorced in?

My dissolution of marriage was dismissed for want of prosecution, what does this mean?

You file for Petition For Dissolution of Marriage in California so that you can get divorced from this man.

Request for evidentiary hearing in family court?

In your Request For Order, you can request the evidentiary hearing. With respect to the witness list, you would have to read the local rules...

Where do I have to file for a modification for child support?

In the city, county, and state in which you were divorced in from your former husband...

Yes, You do this for both real property and personal property.

Is my ex in title to my 401k ?

In the State of California, with respect to community property, all property and/or earnings acquired during marriage is presumed to be community...

Daycare established before child custody - ex harassing them

Shouldn't your current court order regarding child custody and visitation address the access that your son's father would have to the daycare?

Changing Venues?

You would have to fill out, file with the court and have the opposing party served with (and fill out and file with the court a Proof of Service) a...

Judge ordered random drug tests. Do I have to use facility judge suggested?

Yes. Do what the judge suggests. Do what the judge orders.