Do I have to pay separate IV fees and Affidavit of Support for my wife and child?

You need to consult with a licensed immigration attorney.

Can i have the emergency restraining order lifted?

Are you talking about a family law domestic violence restraining order?

Can an ex spouse deduct medical bills from spousal support?

No, unless there is a current court order permitting him to do that...

Income for spousal support calculation

In the State of California, with respect to spousal support, if Spouse A's current, gross, monthly income is substantially less than Spouse B's...

Should I mark terminate on my divorce papers?

Have you been personally served with your ex's Petition For Dissolution of Marriage? You would need to file and serve Response To Petition For...

My wife filed a restraining order and now has been contacting me any recourse??

You are restrained from your wife. Your wife is not restrained from you. You have to ignore her Snap requests, telephone calls, etc...

Inheritance money is your separate property. If you can prove that you purchased your home solely and strictly with your inheritance money, then...

Can my mother divorce my repeat offender father without having to assume any of his debts or share her pension?

In the State of California, with respect to community property, all property and/or earnings acquired during marriage is presumed to be community...

Mediation ?

It does not matter. You have to argue what is in the best interest(s) of your minor child or minor children involved.

What do I do?

You need to be careful with the Hague Convention. You would need to look up The Hague Convention.