It will go to the decedent's extended family.

It sounds like you need to open probate. If you haven't gone through the probate process, then it's very possible that someone else will do it. I...

My brother is excutor of my fathers will. He and I are the only two named in the will.

Yes you are entitled to a report of the expenses paid. The executor's pay is set by the probate code. It is based on the value of the esate.

My brother is executor of my fathers will. Do I have any control over what he decides are expences, and what he pays himself.

Your brother's compensation as "executor of the will" is set by the probate code. He can get extraordinary fees, but they must be approved by the...

How to file for probate in California

The letter you have might qualify as a holographic will. If it does, then it can be offered to probate. Probate is opened by filing a petition...