The simple answer to your question is "yes."

That ship has already sailed. There is really nothing you can do at this juncture.

These types of issues are very much common for USCIS, where the agency does not provide sufficient information, and in fact provides very...

I would state “NO” to both. Your IR1 immigrant visa was neither cancelled nor revoked. It simply expired. SSN is self explanatory.

To render that "withdrawal" harmless wait for 6 months to have elapsed since I-140 approval.

Currently takes over 60 days to hear back,

USCIS will send the RFE in two ways to the attorney, one of which is also mail.

You can use form I-539 to apply for change of status.

I agree. It is much too late for this now.

Spouse needed to have been a USC for at least 3 years prior.