My wife most likely will face a civil case sometime in the future. If I keep my assets in my name only, will my assets be safe?

No. Unless prior to the accident you had a proper marital agreement and or you fully owned the property before marriage or it is otherwise not...

How can I sue without a lawyer or can I because of the arbitration in place for their protection?

Arbitration provisions in the medical malpractice context in California have very specific requirements. In either a lawsuit or arbitration there...

What am I supposed to put in the jury instructions?

In California we use CACI standard form jury instructions. For anything not covered, you can request special jury instructions.

Your lawyer will (or should) use these inconsistencies to negotiate your case or to show reasonable doubt at trial.

What exactly is the ethical breach here?

The attorney suing for fees commits no ethical violation unless that attorney discloses confidential information to the opposing party’s attorney

No. But you are free to hire a different attorney.

How to handle Opposing Counsel's Legal Harrassment and Abuse that has resulted in physical injury, and will not stop??

Bring to the attention of the judge when items are not served. Otherwise, simply take on each motion head on in the standard legal process.

For the court to make sure the settlement is completed and the case dismissed.

How many days before the court should I be served with the motion?

CCP 1005 provides 16 Court (not calendar) days notice is required. 5 more days for mailing, overnight delivery add 2 days, and other rules if...

If I was not served properly and I missed the hearing can I go back and ask it to be vacationed?

Yes you can and it will probably set aside.