A divorce is never good, even if completely amicable. However, I am so grateful for a lucky happenstance that brought Robyn Lozoya and I together. I was at the courthouse filing a restraining order against my not yet ex when I ran into Robyn in line. I was struggling to complete the restraining order... forms and submit them quickly before the court closed. Robyn was in line behind me and asked me if I needed help completing the forms. I explained briefly what I was trying to do and she walked me through the forms and told me what I had to do. She also told me I needed to go to another court to actually file the forms. As I was running out the door, I asked if I could call her as I had additional questions. She said absolutely. I then drove from San Fernando to Downtown Los Angeles (about an hour away). I called Robyn on the way and she spent the entire hour talking to me. I explained the points of my case and expressed my frustration with my current attorney. She gave me advice on how to handle the restraining order filing and things to be aware of in general. We hung up and I filed the docs as she recommended. I then called her afterward and told her what had happened. I then asked her if I could switch attorneys and have her represent me. She said she did not think that would be in my best interest. She did not think it would be the best thing to switch attorneys in the middle of a case. Smartly, I did not listen. I hired Robyn and she was amazing.
In a divorce, both sides are contentious and looking for a fight, however a fight cost you emotionally and in the wallet. I was very angry and frustrated at how the system works and the unfairness I felt at how things work. Robyn listened to me and my frustrations, then redirected my frustration and anger at the system toward finding the best path to finalize my divorce. Striking a deal to end the divorce as economically and as quickly as possible is or should be the goal. Managing a client who is emotionally charged and bitter at the complexity and unfairness of the system (referring to myself) is not easy. This challenge is made more difficult when the other side has a lawyer who does all they can to stir up the emotions of your soon-to-be-ex into fights about nothing. Those fights tax the spirit and cost money, more specifically they cost me money. Most lawyers serve themselves instead of their clients by trying to create conflict by poking at those raw emotions. Creating conflict only results on more legal fees. Robyn does not operate like that. She is the level head and the calming voice of rational and intelligent thought that results in agreement.
After going through a very contentious and hostile divorce, it is really hard to be thankful for anything other than the fact it is over, but I am thankful. I am so thankful for Robyn. She did what she needed to do to get me though the divorce and most importantly, she respected and listened to what I had to say. I have and continue to recommend her as an amazing attorney.