There is no rule, other than the requirement that there has been a "substantial change in circumstances" since the last custody determination.

Divorce and health benefits

You cannot remove her until the divorce is final. And you don't want to. Until the divorce is final you can be sued for her medical bills, so the...

Does asking my son not to wear short at school consider using him as a messenger to my ex wife

What a ridiculous issue. No, telling your child what to wear is not using him as a messenger. But "Tell your Mother not to send you in shorts" is.

Will I be able to expect that the one retirement fund is community property and should received half of the fund upon a divorce?

Yes assuming it was earned during the marriage.

Does he have to file for visitation in her county or can he file in his own county?

If there is no pending case or order, the case must be filed in the county of residence of the child.

Do I need to file a motion for change of venue?

If everybody lives in Clark County register your judgment there. Nothing needs to be done in California.

You need a lawyer ASAP. Her entitlement to a longevity pension versus a disability pension may well be different. In addition, the way you are...

Is it income if my separated spouse puts down his expenses are about 7500 per month but his employer cut him a check

The issue is whether this check is really for business expense reimbursement (in which case it isn't really wage income for tax or support...

What can I do to collect arrears from noncustodial parent? He pays a small amount compared to what he owes.

Find an experienced family law lawyer to work on collecting the arrears. Some lawyers will take such cases on a contingency or percentage basis. ...

What is the actual ate of separation? Am I entitled to half of his savings and checkings along with half of the house?

This is a classic huge "date of separation" mess. You really need to consult with experienced family law counsel familiar with the Norviel and...