How do I handle the divorce with wrong information on the forms, and when it wasn't a response to my serving him.

He has 30 days from April 9th to file a Response. If he is represented by an attorney, contact the attorney and ask him or her if they are aware...

How do I legally evict her without violating the RO she has on me?

I suggest filing a Notice of Ending Domestic Partnership: http://www.sfgov2.org/ftp/uploadedfiles/countyclerk/Forms/DPNESF.pdf There may be...

What is the form number for a stipulation and how do I write the interest for arrears by each payment or just the total?

I think this question has been asked several times; go to the family law facilitator's office at your courthouse and get some help.

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Your custody attorney needs to politely refuse to be the 'middle man' for the support case, and demand that he contact you directly.

...adding to Atty Straus recommendation, if you have a pending hearing, you can file a supplemental declaration requesting that the court order...

What can I do to ensure that I can get increased custody and authority?

You can't use the recording unless she consented to it, but you do have the knowledge. Make her an offer and see what she says.

How to get paternal rights removed.

At the point that you have remarried and your spouse is willing to petition for adoption.

What is the process of enforcement in general?

Initial issue: where was the divorce granted, and did it include child support orders?

Based on my immigration status is it possible that the judge agrees with her visitation schedule and child custody?

The court focuses on the effect on your son, so it's likely that the judge will order the 'step-up' if you didn't have a strong enough relationship...

How do I terminate child support (as a father) and give up my parental rights? Are there any other solutions?

You cannot proceed. The only way to have your parental rights terminated is for her husband to petition for adoption. You should discuss this...