Why wouldn’t you want to? Do you doubt that a she is the next-of-kin?

Of course they do, but you have the burden of proof to show that they lied.

It is true - and hopefully your paid her by check.

I don’t think that would work - if you really want to do it, go through the proper procedures.

They took it, so apparently they can. Actually, they can lien any incoming funds if they find out about them.

Avoid the cost and disruption of the retirement plans and take the $800.

A parent cannot voluntarily quit working; the problem is that it isn’t fair to the father of your first child to have to supplement the fact that...

You need to get an agreement on custodial sharing; if you leave without kids, you are creating what could become status quo.

If she’s willing to pay, why do you need access to the account?

By statute, you have to reimburse but request a payment plan.