"dates for filing" PD is current what should I do?

You can contact the national visa center.

I am a commercial pilot can i get work permit in usa ?

It would be difficult for you to obtain a work visa. You should meet with an attorney to evaluate your options.

Yes, it generally takes 90 days for a work permit to be processed. Hopefully you did your biometrics/fingerprints appointment.

Can i apply for a new F1 visa or marriage based green card during the 60 day grace peiod

Yes you can apply for either a marriage based green card or F1 visa during the 60 day grace period.

Is there any way to not pay the Green Card application fee?

You can file for a waiver of the green card fee but it is unlikely to be granted.

6 year VISA tenure

Yes I agree with my colleague and your attorney. Since you were outside the US for a year your H1B status resets and you are eligible for 6 years.

What visa i need to obtain if i want to move to america to work and my daughter to study

You only qualify for your sister to petition you but that will take a long time to process. You may have some employment history that would make it...

Would that pose a problem for my mom?

The paper want to know the facts about your mother. The fact that you have an arrest record has no bearing on the application.

What are my options if 485 gets denied?? My wife will be eligible for citizenship in next 10 months..

I agree with my colleagues. Your next best step would be to hire an immigration attorney. Given the facts you would not be eligible to adjust until...

H1b transfer during 221g admin processing

I agree with my colleagues. The person who would best be able to assist you with your questions it the immigration counsel for employer B.