I've been trying to get a divorce but my wife will not sign the waiver of citation, file an answer, or show up to finalize it

Hire an attorney, get her served, set it for trial.

Do I have a right to the property (house) or a portion thereof that I refinanced with my soon to be ex-husband?

Maybe. Hire an attorney to look into the facts and circumstances and make their best argument in your favor.

During a divorce how is child custody determined on who gets custody of child.

It is based on the best interest of the child, after presentation of all the evidence.

It is not clear to me whose child is whose. But adoption makes the person who adopts a legal parent of the child. If you are the other legal...

Can I get my kids back?

Take your financial information to the hearing and ask that an attorney be appointed to represent you. If you or the baby tested positive for...

How would I state that my spouse will buy me out of our property in the final divorce decree

Get an attorney to prepare the Decree and other closing documents for you. It is best to have him refinance and buy you out while the case is...

How can I regain custody of my youngest daughter? And is it even possible?

Meet with an attorney and discuss filing for custody.

What can be done depends on what your Decree says. Does it require the parties to refinance within a certain time frame? Chapter 9 of the Family...

How does the process work for my ex wife collecting half my pension?

Honestly I don't know. Military pensions are different. Does the Department of Defense handle it? The VA? I'm not sure. Find a military law...

Custody agreement uses the words if desired, in regards to summer possession

You need to take the order to an attorney to review. You did not quote enough if it for us to tell what it means or who is interpreting it correctly.