What are my options and what can I do with this sisuatuon??? Please help!!!!

You neeed to hire an attorney and ask that he pay your fees in the end. Don't do this alone.!

My ex-husband was arrested for domestic assault and battery and possession of marijuana. Can he get custody of our daughter?

You really need an attorney to protect your interests. Many attorneys offer a free consultation and have payment plans.

If you are accused of child abuse but not formally charged will it appear in a background check?

You were never charged or convicted so I don't see how you would have a problem.

Can I get a no violent contact order after filing a VPO?

You haven't stated whether the VPO had been heard or granted. What did you ask for in your VPO? In any event, it sounds like he is a threat and I...

I am wondering what the best possible way to approach my situation would be.

You need a criminal lawyer to try and fight the charges, get a reduction, etc.

Should I contest?

Show up and ask for a trial. Don't just pay the ticket.

What if a spouse gets a protective order under extreme pressure & intimidation from a family member .. then rob you?

You need an attorney to represent you on a Motion to Vacate the VPO and divorce.

Can my possible common-law wife have a valid marriage to man in Morocco?

I've already answered this question. This is a repeat question.

I would get your middle initial corrected. Hopefully your attorney will call you back; if not, seek other counsel.

Can this be done?

Seek counsel. Only an attorney fee award against her will stop the nonsense.