You need a lawyer who specializes in FERS QDRO'S in your state. Try to find out who that person is.

Go explain the problem to the victim witness coordinator at the state's attorney's Office and ask for help.

Is she going to give a victim's statement at his sentencing? If not, will they allow you to give one in her stead? That is probably the most...

Did you leave it as owed and collect it later? Or did you sign your rights away to that? If you told the judge you agreed to forgive it, you are...

Yes, he may, if he is an adult with no guardian............. ..........................................

Go to icasa.org. They have a chart with fact specific information that you can use to determine whether or not you still have a viable claim.

Is she REQUIRED to be there, no. Is it BETTER for her to be there, yes...............................

Illinois law requires you to file in the Putative Father Registry to preserve your rights. If you had done so, you would have notice. Since you...

Lots of facts not included. Get consult with local lawyer............................. ..........

Nobody can answer that question except someone who practices in front of that judge regularly. Bring your papers to a local lawyer.