Can I appeal or fight this?

You need to hire a family lawyer. Look on the avvo tab.

Can i go to jail for a frist time shopelifeing under 200

A lawyer can be appointed to you by the court if u r indigent.

Who do I call and how long should I wait when ex with restraining order is late dropping off son?

You could call at the beginning. Make the drop off the cop shop and see how long it takes him to go there.

Is it legal for the cops to let someone come into your home to get stuff and they don't live there and didn't even knock?

If she wants something back, she should call the police and report it as theft.

Boyfriend of 8 years kicked me out with no notice. Has half my stuff won’t give it back is it legal for me to go in and get it ?

You may have to get a court order for him to provide the stiff to you and for the police to provide a deputy if needed.

There is no order against you. Do not see them with the idea of helping them out.

How can I contact someone i have mutual restraining orders with?

This situation is too complicated to deal with without a lawyer.

Is he representing himself without a lawyer? If so, then yes he can. But still report it every time.

Divorce and Defamation?

Talk to the lawyer who is handling these cases. If there is not one, then find a lawyer on the avvo tab.

What's the best course of action for filing a restraining order?

Call the women's center. They can usually help with those.