How can I legally obtain custody or adopt the child? Has his rights been terminated?

These facts are way to confusing to figure out in this online forum. You should consult an adoption attorney in person .

It wouldn't be worth her effort. You need to get the is tents coordinated with your paychecks.

I don't have a lawyer, we had the same one and he couldn't talk to me. So it sounds like I have no recourse in this matter?

No you did not have the same lawyer. One party was represented and the other was not. Sadly you probably were not. This is why we are always...

My divorce was final in Oct 2015, was wondering if I could go back on my ex and get half of his 401K?

Probably not but contact the jawyer who handled your case.

What do I really owe?

The fact that your children are over 18 is irrelevant. If you owe arrearages you owe the entire amounts ordered to pay minus whT you did pay plus...

He states I have to come pick them up on Monday..I want to know what is right please

You must follow the original court order until you modify that order.

You can attach exhibits to your pleading but that is a strategy call. Something you should discuss with a lawyer that you consult and hire. If...

Can we go to the country where we got married and held our citizenships to get the divorce? We are now dual citizenships.

That is incorrect. There is no reason to return to the country you married in to get divorced. If you live here in Illinois file here. I'm...

Can my fiancé have the right to allow me to pick his daughter up.

If your finance's court orders do not say that only he can do the pick ups and/or drop offs then you can and the mother cannot stop you.

Are there any mediator therapist/lawyers on this site?

No mediators for hire. No therapists either. Lawyers are here but not a help wanted source. Use the FIND A LAWYER tab above.