I bought my house before marriage and in trust.(Illinois)now want to refinance

Merely refinancing is not enough to give her any claim to your home. However, there are other factors that might come into play.

Is it legal for an Ex to withhold info on his current business and home address, new wife, & new stepchildren, to his ex-wife?

You have the right to know where your husband lives, with whom he lives, and where your children go when he is with them. His occupation will...

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What should I do next ?

You should probably tell your boyfriend to use the public defender.

401k loan during divorce

There is an automatic statutory injunction in place in every divorce case. If I were you. I would go in on a motion for leave to take out the loan.

To withdraw a motion, when am I able to do so?

If you do not show up in court, the motion will be stricken. You might advise the ex's lawyer that you are not going ahead with the motion.

Who is responsible for damage from a stolen vehicle during a police chase

The suspect.

Who is responsible for damage done to a stolen vehicle during a police chase?

The suspect.

If sending a subpoena for documents only pro se, who do you request documents be sent to?

They should be sent to you. However, be careful. The records could be deemed to be inadmissible because they are normally hearsay. There is a...

Can I get reimbursed for medical bills and insurance premiums from the non-custodial parent?

Take your ex back to court. I hope you kept the bills and proof of your payments.

Is a self-represented litigant charged w/ criminal contempt required to be notified by judge they have a right to an attorney?

No.