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Shirley Meiler Diefenbach

Trusts Attorney at Durham, NC

5.0   5 reviews

About Shirley

Learn Shirley’s areas of practice.

Practice areas
  1. Elder law

  2. Estate planning
    Estate planning/Probate/Trust Administration/Elder Law.

  3. Probate

  4. Trusts

Shirley M. Diefenbach began her law practice in New York where she was an associate of a nationally recognized Elder Law and Estate Planning law firm. Through her many years of practice, she has had the opportunity to help hundreds of families with their estate planning and trust and estate administration needs.

Shirley earned her law degree from the Benjamin N. Cardozo School of Law in New York City and her undergraduate degree from the University of Maryland.  While in law School, Shirley was the Internet Editor of the Arts & Entertainment Law Journal and a member of the Tax Clinic.  In that capacity, she represented low-income taxpayers in audits, administrative appeals, offers in compromise and other tax collection matters.

Shirley is admitted to practice law in New York and North Carolina.

On a personal note, Shirley has been married to her husband, Scott since 1999, and has a son, Nathan, born in 2008.  She enjoys cooking, traveling and spending time with her friends and family.

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Licensed for 18 years
State NC
Status Active
Acquired 2010
Updated 10/03/2022
State NY
Status Currently Registered
Acquired 2004
Updated 06/05/2022

We have not found any instances of professional misconduct for this lawyer.

Contact Shirley

Walker Lambe, PLLC
240 Leigh Farm Rd., Suite 100
Durham, NC, 27707


5.0 / 5.0
  5 customer reviews
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Posted by Diane | June 6, 2021
This review is from a person who hired this attorney.
| Hired Attorney
Outstanding Estate Attorney
Shirley is an excellent attorney but she is also a fantastic person. She probes into the best way to present an estate plan and provides this information to her clients. However, she also has the rare ability to be sympathetic in difficult cases such as mine which involved many moving parts. I have all the confidence in the world that Shirley will take care of my affairs when this is needed. I could not ask for anyone more superlative than this attorney who has the capacity to be so strong in her knowledge of the legal system but also so compassionate at the same time. I feel very blessed that our passed crossed and give Shirley my highest recommendation.
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Posted by Bob | June 2, 2017
This review is from a person who hired this attorney.
| Hired Attorney
Wonderful experience
We met Shirley a few years ago at an estate planning seminar, we connected with her right away. Our initial conference was more than we ever expected; we covered a lot of ground but at the same time had fun, which is hard to explain because we were talking about such serious issues. The staff at the law firm was great, from the minute we walked in everyone made us feel super comfortable. We have referred many clients and will continue to do so. When my mom passed away in January, Shirley was super helpful and made the process go quite smoothly, could not have asked for any better service. Thank you for all you do. Bob and Linda
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Posted by Jason | April 10, 2016
This review is from a person who hired this attorney.
| Hired Attorney
Excellent attorney
My wife and I hired Ms. Diefenbach a few months ago for our estate planning, she was very patient and gave us a very detailed plan, a flat fee, we signed our documents within a few weeks of visiting with her,. We feel peace of mind knowing we have all of this done and that our children are protected, her staff was very helpful and knowleble. We would highly recommend Ms. Diefenbach.
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Posted by anonymous | December 12, 2014
Best lawyer in town
Shirley assisted my husband and I with our estate planning, she was patient and explained everything to us. We felt she really cared for our family. She made it so easy and our experience could not have been better. We have already referred Shirley to a number of people and will continue to sing her praises.
Posted by anonymous | January 31, 2014
Great attorney, down to earth, knowledgeable
Shirley did a fantastic job going through our estate planning option- we feel peace of mind knowing she took care of all the details. We would highly recommend Shirley to our family and friends.


  • Hourly Rates $ 1-400 per hour
Payment methods
Check, Credit Card


AVVO RATING 10.0 (Superb)

Work Experience

  • Partner/Principal
  • Walker Lambe Rhudy Costley & Gill, LLC
  • 2014 - Present
  • Associate
  • Walker Lambe Rhudy Costley & Gill, PLLC
  • 2011 - 2014
  • Attorney
  • Vincent J. Russo & Associates, PC
  • 2003 - 2011
  • Heyman Fellow Intern
  • NEC
  • 2002 - 2003
  • Legal Intern
  • Supreme Court of New York - Justice James M. Catterson
  • 2002 - 2002
  • Paralegal
  • Solomon Zauderer Ellenhorn Frischer & Sharp
  • 1999 - 2000
  • Paralegal
  • Torys, LLP
  • 1998 - 1999
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  • Yeshiva University, Benjamin N. Cardozo School of Law
  • JD - Juris Doctor
  • 2003
  • University of Maryland, College Park
  • BS - Bachelor of Science
  • 1998

Legal Cases

  • Estate Planning
  • Client was very happy


  • North Carolina Bar Association, Elder Law Section
  • Board Member
  • 2018 - Present
  • Durham-Orange Estate Planning Council
  • Member
  • 2013 - Present
  • North Carolina Bar Association
  • Member
  • N/A
  • Durham County Bar Association
  • Member
  • N/A
  • Wake County Bar Association
  • Member
  • N/A
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Languages Spoken

  • English
  • Hebrew


  • Peer Review Rated
  • Martindale-Hubbell
  • 2017
  • Advocate
  • Tax clinic
  • 2003
  • Sigma Delta Tau Sorority
  • Outstanding Senior
  • 1998


  • Walker Lambe Newsletter
  • What do do when a loved one passes away
  • 2013

Speaking Engagements

  • Estate Planning 101
  • Estate Planning
  • 2017
  • Wake County Public Schools Adult Education
  • Estate Planning
  • 2016
  • Pet Trusts
  • Pet Trusts
  • 2015
  • Basics of estate planning
  • Estate planning
  • 2015
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Attorney endorsements

Received (11)
Given (2)
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Wills and living wills Attorney | May 16
Relationship: Co-worker
"I endorse this lawyer. Shirley is an exceptional Estates Administration attorney. She is creative, efficient, resourceful, and always caring in her representation of clients and their surviving family members. Above all, Shirley is professional and unreproachably ethical in all she does."
Estate planning Attorney | Apr 21
Relationship: Co-worker
"Shirley is an excellent attorney."
Estate planning Attorney | Apr 20
Relationship: Co-worker
"Shirley is a wonderful attorney. She is extremely knowledgeable and truly cares about her clients."
Estate planning Attorney | Apr 20
Relationship: Co-worker
"I endorse this lawyer. She is a very competent and ethical attorney who cares for the clients and puts their interests first."
Estate planning Attorney | Apr 20
Relationship: Co-worker
"I strongly endorse this lawyer. Shirley is an outstanding attorney."
Probate Attorney | Mar 26
Relationship: Co-worker
"I endorse this lawyer."
Estate planning Attorney | Jun 12
Relationship: Supervised lawyer
"I strongly and highly recommend Shirley Diefenbach as a caring and diligent Trusts & Estates lawyer specializing in the areas of Trust and Estate Administration, Elder Law, Special Needs and Estate Planning, Guardianship and Estate Litigation. Shirley is a skilled and dedicated Trusts & Estates attorney. In focusing her practice in the specialty of Trusts & Estates, she can handle all areas of concern in this particular practice area. Shirley takes her role in the team of professionals assisting any family with their estate planning needs very seriously. Shirley has years and depths of estate planning experience. She is able to give advice to her clients that will allow them to set a secure plan today to protect their families in the future in any of life’s circumstances that may arise."
Estate planning Attorney | Apr 29
Relationship: Fellow lawyer in community
"I endorse this lawyer. Shirley is extremely capable, competent and professional and she takes great care to ensure that her clients receive great service."
Estate planning Attorney | Apr 27
Relationship: Fellow lawyer in community
"I endorse this lawyer. Shirley is an incredible attorney who truly cares about her clients."
Estate planning Attorney | Aug 07
Relationship: Fellow lawyer in community
"I endorse this lawyer. They are an expert in the field of estate planning."
Estate planning Attorney | Aug 04
Relationship: Fellow lawyer in community
"I endorse this lawyer."
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Durham Trusts Lawyer Shirley Meiler Diefenbach
Shirley Meiler Diefenbach
Trusts Attorney
Durham, NC
Licensed for 18 years