Can a Judge rule that a parent lose custody because they are transgender?

The judge cannot rule in your spouse's favor solely based on your being transgender (there is specific case law on this subject). There are many...

How can the father of the child state he's going to file for custody if i already filed paperwork on him

He can file a counterclaim for custody.

What can I do legally as a parent?

If the Order granting him sole custody does not provide that he can move out of state, you could file for an emergency custody order, forcing him...

What are my legal rights if I get served with separation or divorce papers if living in same house?

Attorney Moreles is correct. Also, you need to secure your e-mail account by requiring a password, so that he cannot access your account.

If you are still married, the answer is "no", because in order to bind her to an agreement, it must be notarized.

Is there any way to appeal a domestic violence case against me

Yes, so long as you have not let more than 30 days pass since the order was entered against you. Consult with an attorney who does appeals. This...

Can I just up and leave back to NY or do i have to take him for custody out here first before i can leave?

If there is no court order in North Carolina (or court order in NY stating that the two of you are to live in NC until the court orders otherwise),...

What should I do

Contact your school counselor to assist you, or if your father is still alive, contact him to see if he can assist you. If not, contact the Wake...

Days with grandparents counts for days with parents?

It may count, if the his parents were taking care of the child during times designated for him to care for the child; partly because its not like...

Can I file a appeal for custody visitations?

The only time you would file for an appeal is within 30 days of when a final order has been entered, and only for reasons which include errors in...