Fathers' Rights Matter. Alex Delivers.
I retained Alex in January of 2019, after my wife abruptly left and took our then-7 year old daughter with her. The case involved what I later learned is unfortunately all too common in these matters - bad advice to my wife from bad "friends", a restraining order based on exaggerated claims of alcoholism and (verbal) abuse, all strategically sought to get a leg up on divorce, custody, and the financial gain and projected "windfall" that comes with them. As a devoted, present and committed Dad who had been intensely involved in my daughter's life for EVERY day of her life, and with our marital problems being MARITAL and having nothing to do with our child, I was shell-shocked, stunned, surprised, scared, full of anxiety and almost any other emotion you can imagine over the prospect of my child being taken from her father and best friend, and vice versa. Distraught, freshly served by a sheriff, acting pro se and without time for appropriate representation, I reluctantly agreed to a 6-month voluntary order that would severely limit my time with my daughter, including no overnight stays, 20 minute FaceTime calls during the week, one weekly 8 hour visit, and inexplicably required attendance at an abused persons program in addition to substance abuse therapy. I was a man with a successful career and not so much as an active speeding ticket, suddenly feeling worthless and criminal. On my first call to Alex, he displayed an amazingly calm, even-keeled yet realistic demeanor and attitude that remained consistent throughout my ordeal and allowed me to keep calm eyes on the "prize" - 50/50 split and shared custody of my daughter. The six months became a full 17 months, but not without progress and benefit - Alex recommended I go on the offensive and file suit (which I did) while we planned our own strategical "slow and steady" plan to convince therapists, custody evaluators, and eventually a judge that I remained more than a fit, capable and omnipresent Dad. It took a great deal of sacrifice, sleepless nights, tears, venting to Alex and biting of my tongue, but he was always there and guided me through the entire process with frequent and meaningful contact and explanation. While they always came with the appropriate disclaimers, he would also provide candid theories and "predictions" of what would happen next (with incredible accuracy), and we truly moved ahead with the united goal of doing what was right for my daughter. This obviously wasn't the goal on the other side of the courtroom, and it eventually showed. During a full three day custody trial that displayed Alex's strong trial skills in preparation, organization and cross-examination, we presented an amazing pictorial display of my involvement in my child's life, starting literally minutes after she was born. The court heard from a psychologist (and certified expert witness) who testified on my behalf and in my favor after conducting an unbiased DSM-5 exam. It was easily the most integral and important piece of testimony at the trial, and one that Alex suggested, arranged and fought for when my wife's counsel attempted vehemently to keep him off the stand. THAT is why one retains counsel. THAT is what makes the difference between winning and losing a case. There was a delay in the final ruling due to the COVID crisis, but eventually we were able to phone in for a hearing and receive the news I had long awaited and prayed for - 50/50 joint legal and physical custody of my daughter. It wasn't just a win for me, but a win for her, and perhaps a win for all fathers who find themselves on the wrong end of allegations created to separate them from their children. The greatest move I made over the 17 month ordeal, besides becoming baptized and turning my life over to Christ, was calling Alex Anderson. His actions, and those I took at his suggestion and guidance, gave my daughter the voice that courts and custody evaluators do not seem to allow in these cases.