Caught shoplifting at Whole Foods ($13 dollars worth). If the police never came, do i need to pay the fine?

You need the derives of a criminal defense attorney now.

You should have asked this months ago before you were convicted. It's too late now.

Is there a way that one can lower house arrest bond or is there a way to decrease it

I don't know what you mean by the wording of your question.

Can I fight a traffic infraction ticket that I got,even after missing my court date?

If you can get the case rescheduled and you can get yoursell to court then yes you can contest it.

Can my boyfriend avoid incarceration for the following charges if he goes to rehab? He has a drug and alcohol problem.

It depends on the policy the prosecutor has in your county as well as the sentencing judge. Hire a defense attorney for advice and representation.

Can you start a sentencing punishment before being found guilty?

Consult with an attorney in person about this.

If your lawyer believes that such letters can be helpful then listen to him and get the letters.

I got charged with possession of less then a ounce of marijuana in one county and possession with intent to distribute marijuana

From the facts stated there should not be a problem violation.

I was convicted a long time ago of disorderly conduct and payed a fine,when i do a backround it no show,can buy i buy a gun.

If the disorderly did not involve domestic violence then your gun privileges are still in tact.

Can you effectively counter charge or counter sue someone who filed a false DV or molestation allegation on you ?

Given all the issues you are raising I urge you to obtain legal representation as soon as possible.