Can I stop this any other way?

I would send a cease and desist and then an injunction.

Is the statute of limitations up on filing m1 criminal charges against me

Usually yes but they may say the criminal enterprise is ongoing so statute is hard to figure out.

Opposite sex kids of no relation sharing a bedroom? 10-11y.o

Yeah that sounds bad. I would discuss it further.

Can he file an Intentional Emotional Distress case against her?

That's terrible and sad. There really is no way to know. Perhaps a DNA test would be in order.

Your husband should sue them in small claims court.

How can he get visitation and then fight paternity when I filed for support

Sounds pretty bad. You can ask any family lawyer on this site for a free consultation and they can advise.

OLL

Perhaps your uncle was convicted years earlier than you. The law has changed. Either way every case is different. It is possible but will be...

Should I be compensated for the unused vacation pay?

Of course it is yours, if they do not give it to you, then file a small claims action.

Can the house sell/close if there is no profit and the offer is only to cover the mortgage in full? Can the judgement just follo

Profit is not required but I would advise you to consult with a lawyer to negotiate a better number.

How can we sell the house if the value/selling amount and the debt we owe are the same if not more!

There is a possibility to just contact them and negotiate a settlement as to the second lien.