Can i seek custody and child support without a divorce or legal separation?

You should file for all in family court. You would do well to speak with a family law attorney

Child support collections in two counties for same child?

Sounds odd. But before anyone can answer they would have to see the Orders that were issued.

You could be arrested for trespassing. Why not ask for permission

What do I need to do so my niece in California can use my car that is registered in new york

Register it in her name. You can keep the title in your name.

Crazy ex sharing things about e online. scared

You should speak with an attorney familiar with defamation. It may be that you have a cause of action for damages particularly with regard to the...

What can I do since NY Child Support Enforcement will not close my case?

You should see an attorney familiar with child support matters. The longer you wait the more unlikely it is You will get any relief.

What kinds of things should my husband and I do that best represents us in court?

The best way to prepare is to sit down with a lawyer.

At what age does my husband have to pay child support until? If it is 21, can we change it to 18?

In NY it is 21. If the child emancipated that can relieve a person of the obligation

You are obliged to testify if subpoenaed. You can invoke you 5th amendment right to not incriminate yourself if the answer may place you at risk of...

Do judges do any interrogating themselves?

Both. The Judge can ask questions. Often they leave it to the lawyers.