Ex refuses to cover child's med when Ordered Stip states he is responsible as long as he qualifies for coverage with his company

You could file a motion for contempt of court. Consult an attorney.

Can I drop a "final" 5-year order of protection that was ordered by a judge 30 days ago?

You cannot unless the other party agrees. Papers will then have to be filed with the court. Consult an attorney.

Wife called police, an argument. Said I had a gun, to kill her. She changed her story to: I just want him to be nice to me.

There was no arrest made so for now you were okay.

Since she entered the country legally with a valid visa it should not be a problem if you marry her a couple of month's after the visa expires. ...

If I'm going to receive part of my wife's 401k in divorce, can the money be transferred to my 401k without tax consequences to

A Qualified Domestic Relations Order if properly executed will avoid the taxes.

I am not happy in my marriage and want to know about my rights in divorce. No kids etc simple just the 2 of us.

Speak to a local attorney to determine your rights. If you both agree on everything an uncontested divorce would be the least expensive method.

Our divorce agreement says my ex must pay half of all expenses for Ed. And medical. He doesn't . What should I do?

Meet with an attorney to review your agreement. If the terms are spelled out then your ex is in contempt of a court order. Have the attorney...

Need lawyer for separation , have order of protection at this time, in house. all monies are in spouses name,no access

You need to begin a divorce action because there are automatic orders that will stop transfers from occurring.

It stays on your record forever.

How do i get an arrest record in ny expunged?

It cannot be expunged in New York.