Should I get a court order for custody?

Yes, you should file for a custody order. You should additionally file for child support & then communicate to the father that if he consents to...

The answer is: likely yes. The reason is that you're likely using the money to defry basic living expenses & to that extent, it will likely be...

Can a pro rata share of extra curricular expenses and medical expenses be lowered if the custodial parent's income increases?

Yes, it can, as that would likely constitute asignificant change allowing for the modification. You would indeed need to file a modification...

Visitation and Child Support

She has a right to have support paid thru the court. Likewise, you have a right to file for a visitation order. You should be aware, however, of...

Your options are to either try marriage counseling, or file for divorce. Ultimately if you & your spouse cannot agree on fundamental issues, then...

We have joint legal custody but their father doesn't come for them as he should,

You should certainly present whatever proof you have of the father's "excuses" for cancelling visits. That said, the custody/visitation Judge...

What would be considered "fighting" in a civil case?

If you mean a Family Court domestic violence case, then under some circumstances words may be coupled with threatened action to constitute...

In NYS how can we make amendments to a pre-nuptial agreement that my wife entered into before we got married in 2011?

Unless your original prenup has language to the contrary, you should be able to modify the original prenup. Additionally, NYS General Obligations...

I would like to know about temporarily suspending overnight visitation with my ex. Is this possible?

I agree with Ms Fiss - I don't think you'll be able to outright suspend visitation on these facts, but the odds seem in your favor to get visits...

My husband wants to adopt my oldest son as his biological father has not seen him since was an infant(my son is 16 years old).

If the father has not had significant contact for at least 6 months, then the Court may dispense with the need for his consent. On the facts...