Married 21 years, 4 kids, stay at home mom for 18 years (no employment). Do I get spousal maintenance?

Under most circumstances you will but you should be represented by your own attorney in order to make sure it happens.

I have started the process of divorce. Partial stipulation of settlement in place..stalled. . Judicial intervention adviseable ?

Your current attorney is threatening? That makes no sense. And your attorney (or his) would be the one filing an RJI.

Temp Order Hearing & Divorce Petiton

No (to both questions.)

Is there a way to keep someone out of my house when I'm gone legally?

If it's the house in which she's living, probably not. But there may be more to this - so consult a local attorney and discuss the situation in...

If you're asking about property purchased and paid for prior to the marriage and maintained as separate property, the income from the property...

Joint bank account and pending divorce

He's entitled to withdraw - but it's still a marital asset.

If I did not file a response to my husbands counter petition within 21 days as indicated in the court order is it a loss for me?

It puts you into a possible default. Get a local attorney and make the appropriate filings ASAP.

Health Insurance

No.

I was married to my wife for 10 years, we got married while she in prison. We never cusumated our marrige. Can she get alimony

No.

In a divorce is debit split 50/50?

Not necessarily. What were the loans used for?