Two to three days of trial... but it takes many months to get to trial...

My Husband an I got married and wasn't aware that an old order of protection was still in effect!!!

If you have a lawyer that attorney should be explaining the process! It depends upon who issued the order, when and why.

Do I have to revert to my maiden name if it is stated in the divorce decree?

You're not required to do so. It's your option.

Can a former lawyer of mine tell people about the fact that I had to file a bankruptcy

Yes. It's not confidential/privileged information.

Wife wants divorce. house in her name. she wants me to leave. can I leave without forfeiting any possible monies or claims?

The only negative in terms of leaving would be with reference to custody - not to the economic settlement.

My lawyer said the process server submitted a form the courts does not use. Is that possible?

An affidavit of service is what is needed. Your attorney should know how to fix this.

What if my ex spouse does not comply with our divorce decree that is now 19 years old?

The decree controls unless there is something that supersedes it.

My wife left me with her boyfriend i dont know were she is and I want to file for divorce

Contact a local attorney and make the requisite filings.

Can motion for order to change spousal support be dismissed by my wife?

She can withdraw her motion without prejudice to her right to file a similar motion at a later time.

Hello:Is my husband entitled to half of my 401K, if we have been married for less than 5 years, please? Thank you

Not necessarily - ordinarily it's half of the accruals, including investment returns on those accruals, for the accruals during the marital period.