How do I file my own motion against a child support modification request from my ex?

You need to petition the Court for the items that you need and then you need to serve him.

How often should a 16 yo be expected to do visitation in a month time?

You need someone to review your order and then it needs to be followed.

You need to speak to an Elder Law Attorney. I am reposting.

Can I move my sons out of state?

Unless dad gives permission, then you would need to seek Court approval before moving, or you risk being dragged back to NJ with the kids, and...

I am a grandparent with sole legal custody of my granddaughter. Father did not contest.. What are my rights?

If you have sole legal custody, then you have the same rights as a normal parent would that would have sole legal custody.

MMy daughter mother left out of state with my child without my permission and I have joint custody and visitation rights can she

When you say leaving the state, do you mean leave, or relocate. If she went to NJ or Philly on a day trip, if there is nothing in your Order or...

I filed for sole custody, can I cancel it?

Yes you can, you can withdraw your petition.

Am i legally married ?

If you were married in a religious ceremony in the state of NY, then you are legally married under NY law.

Can I fire my lawyer and represent my self.?

You can, but its playing with fire, when you are representing yourself.

I got aTRO from my son when I got it I did not read it and called him on his cell twice to tell him I love him what happens now

You need to be really careful going forward. Hopefuly nothing will having from it. Make sure to retain counsel to represent you in court.