What should I do?

You should speak to an experienced defense attorney to handle the possible case for you. The sooner the better.

Are they a public record ?

More information is needed to answer your question, but probably not. If an arrest was made and a charge is not substantiated within a certain...

If the police are failing to make an arrest, are we experiencing bias or is this how statutory cases usually go?

Whether the relationship is same or opposite sex is irreverent. It sounds like Sex Abuse because, as you said, the age of consent is 17 in New York...

Can a police officer do what you described? Apparently yes, because you experienced it. Should a police officer allow a person who they believe is...

Is it normal the attorney can't reach the DA for 3 months? If not, is this negligence, or Att is not being transparent?

It is highly unlikely that an attorney cannot get an ADA on the phone for more than 12 weeks. If the injuries are not serious and you do not have a...

Is there anything I can do to get her to leave me alone? Can I do to anything back to her to get her leave me alone??

Have you told your public defender about the letters? Unless there is a court order or settlement I don't see how you would be obligated to pay her...

Can I have the criminal CHARGES that I listed in my situation (#s 1, 2, and 4) expunged from my record?

You could try to obtain the minutes from the plea to find out if the charges were dismissed and a mistake has been made. The bottom line is that...

What kind of lawyer do a get to sue the auto mechanic shop and the insurance company

Have you filed a police report? You could contact a tort lawyer.

Will my charge be reduced at my next court appearance?

The best person to ask this question of is your defense attorney. That person is aware of all of the facts and (hopefully) has spoken to the ADA on...

Do violations give you a record

In New York a violation is not criminal. So a conviction of a violation will not result in a criminal record.