Can he deny me from talking to my child?

A parent should never alienate a child from the other parent. That said, if written requests from you do not move him, you may wish to file with...

I'm married in the state of new York but i still live in nj right now

I agree with the previous response. It's all about residency.

Ex has emancipated children

If there is an existing Order, you need only file to enforce the Order and to provide proofs that the children are still enrolled in college...

Substation of attorney

Although you may wish to check your fee agreement, you in general may be charged to copy your file. Toner is expensive.

Can I take my 3 year old son out of state for vacation? Custody agreement states I need to give mother 1 month notice, only.

Provided that you are abiding by the terms of the Agreement, there would seem to be no problem with doing so.

While not necessarily disagreeing with the other responses, I would certainly at least ask for summary judgment in your favor dismissing the TRO on...

My husband left me in march and is now engaged to a realtor and he is filing for divorce can he make me give up the house

It's hard to discuss all of your options without more facts as to finances, college costs, and even retirement assets and respective incomes of you...

Common law marriage with proper religious ceremony

There is no common law marriage in New Jersey. I cannot speak to New York, however.

My ex-husband is a diplomat, he will receive 25% cost of living allowance and 18,000 housing allowance at his new post.

Absolutely. You are within your rights to file and seek recalculation of child support.

What steps do i have take to make the courts see it in my eyes?

I agree with the previous responses. Seeking experienced family law counsel to discuss all of the facts and options would be prudent.