This is a common fight. ROFR is usually limited to times when there is a significant time period at issue. I like to insert “6 hours or more” or...

Reasonable installment payments are acceptable for that type of application.

What is a fro .?

That is stalking. You need to have an attorney.

How do I get child support to stop coming out my check if the child is in my custody ?

File a motion to terminate your support, and to initiate her obligation to you.

Can a parent sign over their rights and not pay child support

She can give you custody, but cannot voluntarily terminate her parental rights. If the child lives with you, she has to put you child support.

Generally the person receiving title prepares the deed, and after execution, files it.

Do I need to have legal counsel for my court date (s)?

The short answer is Yes. The long answer is also Yes.

If file a appeal, the small claims judgment will be dismissed?

The judgment remains unless and until the Appellate Division reverses it, or you obtain an Order staying it.

Should I do phychlogical evaluation?

If the court ordered it, you should comply with the court order.

What is the state guidelines for holiday custody in NJ?

Such holidays are normally alternated, but that is usually by agreement. What does your custody order say?