You can check the USCIS webpage for current processing times.

Your question is unclear. Consult with an attorney to explore your options.

It can take a few weeks to months after approval to receive the SSN.

No it is not advisable to withdraw your application if filed in good faith.

Yes this could present issues for AOS purposes.

The I130 must be filed to begin the process.

No it is not advisable to travel to the country you claimed asylum.

You will need to provide proof of status for reentry purposes.

This wouldn’t be a renewal of the category has changed.

You will likely need to provide some proof that the clearance is not available to her.