If you die before the child turns 18, your husband can file a 3rd party custody. But he would have to prove the biological father is unfit. That is assuming that biological father will even want the responsibility of raising the child. If this is something that keeps you up at night, start a fund now for paying the legal costs, and keep a journal about the things that make you concerned about the biological father. Keep in a place your son can't access and never talk to your son about it.
Under RCW 26.10.150 Both parents have access to the child's records unless the court order states otherwise. Just because one parent has sole decision making, does not mean the other parent can't have access to the records. The parenting plan needs to clear say the Father can't have the records before you ignore the law.
18. That is the age that the child can request to live with a specific parent. Though the court, through a Guardian ad Litem, will often consider a child's wishes at a younger age. Your son needs to act to protect his children now. He needs to be careful about recording. If he records the other party without permission, or their knowledge, in Washington he is committing a crime.
Getting these modified depends a lot on how you present yourself, and what the events were. You might consider hiring an attorney to represent you at the hearing. Judges are more willing to believe that you are modifying the order because you want it modified, not because your being pressured to modify it, if you are represented. If you cannot afford to hired an attorney to help you on that day, I would suggest also mentioning that you do have a constitutional right to associate with people,...
I am guessing that this is 3rd party custody case. If so, your focusing on the wrong thing. Third party custody is about your fitness to be a parent. They have to prove your unfit. If you can show that you are fit to be a parent, they lose. Simple as that. Look at what they are asserting make you unfit, and either show why it isn't true, or do the work to fix the problem.
Talk to an appeals attorney asap if you want to do an appeal. You only have 30days to appeal the decision. No you cannot file a new modification, unless something drastic happened after the parenting plan was signed. Read RCW 26.09.260 very carefully, that way you know what the court would be looking at in the future.
If your going to do an appeal, hire an experienced family law appeals attorney.
I don't think your getting the whole story. The father has no ability to close a CPS case. Only CPS can do that. There really is not enough information here to tell you what path she needs to take. Was there a dependency filed? If yes, she needs to work with that attorney, then get a referral from the dependency court over to do a parenting plan. If there isn't a dependency, then she just needs to file a parenting plan. She needs to be ready and willing to prove that she is no longer a...
Be prepared to present your case. Object to any witnesses the other side wants to present, but do not argue with the judge. If the other side has ignored the case schedule, there is a chance the other side will not show. If the respondent doesn't show, then you need to testify why what you want is in the child's best interest. When the Judge asks you questions, listen closely and answer what was asked.
Contempt must be personally served, even cross contempt. Local Court rules require 14 days notice for commissioner hearing, though that maybe changing and along with other deadlines mentioned here. You can find the local rules on the Pierce County Superior Court Web page.
I do a lot of Contempt defense work in Pierce County. Since you are not represented, the hearing should be continued to give you a chance to be screened for an assigned counsel. As jail is a possible remedy that could be...
To get the child back sooner, if your parenting plan is clear where the child is suppose to be at this point, you could also file a police report about custodial interference. But that may escalate his behavior.