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Douglas Paul Becker

Douglas Becker’s Answers

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  • Do I need a lawyer in family law?

    My daughter is 10 almost 11 and has never had any contact with her biological father. He does pay some child support for her..... My husband is looking to adopt her. What are the Washington state laws on non custodial abandonment?

    Douglas’s Answer

    If the biological father was confronted with a child support action, he might see some value in allowing an adoption. On the other hand, he might demand visitation, although he would face an investigation over how much contact is appropriate if he chose to do so. You would need an experienced family law attorney to pursue this course.

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  • Can I rent the house after divorce and relocate to another country?

    I am getting ready to file for a dissolution of marriage with a child in WA state. I have the title of the house and bought last year still have a debt that more than the market value of the house. My husband has disability and never worked nor ha...

    Douglas’s Answer

    The first two attorneys gave good answers. Of course, not everything is required to go to trial. If you and your husband can reach an agreement, it will make things pretty simple. Just remember that you will need either the court's approval or the father's written agreement to relocate your child out of the school district. You might also want to get advice about whether it would make more sense to give the house back to the bank if the rent you would get is less than the mortgage payment.

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  • How to make sure the child support funds are not misused by custodian parent?

    Me and my ex are trying to reach an agreement on the amount of child support. I (respondent and non-custodian parent) basically agree to pay for the child support calculated by the state's standard child support schedule worksheet. However, I want...

    Douglas’s Answer

    It's highly unlikely the court would approve this arrangement if it's opposed by the other parent. Even if it's entered by agreement, it would be very vulnerable to modification on an "unworkability" basis or voided as against public policy. How would the inevitable conflicts be resolved? For example, what are the powers of the third party manager? Can they just declare that some expense won't be paid from the fund because they don't deem it legitimate? How will food, rent and utility bills be paid in each household, which are typical uses of child support? Requiring an accounting for basic support was at one time authorized by statute, but it was eventually repealed because it caused more problems than it fixed. Special expenses can be subject to joint control by both parents, but not basic child support. Also remember that child support is a right of the child, not a parent, so agreements between the parents on that topic are not as strong as other kinds of agreements.

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  • What are my rights and my partners rights in regards to my daughter? My partner is not her biological father.

    My partner has been with me for 4 years and has been my daughters main caregiver since day one. He signed the paternal affidavit at her birth so if legally her father. The bio logical father may try to contest this. The bio-logical father has not ...

    Douglas’s Answer

    Perjury prosecutions are very rare. To get an answer about the rights of you, your partner (who may have a de facto parent claim) and the bio father (who may have serious problems getting access to the child due to the abuse convictions and his delay in filing a claim), it would be worth spending an hour with an experienced family law attorney.

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  • Me ex's parents paid the remainder of my bill of a parenting evaluation. They want it back now. Do I legally owe them?

    The new parenting plan isn't signed but he is trying to force me to use it. I want to go to mediation to hammer out details. He wont agree to mediation until I pay back his parents. The plan seems a bit ill-logical, but he thinks it perfect. I can...

    Douglas’s Answer

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    Your ex has made the mistake of forcing you to seek legal advice. Take advantage of the delay he is causing by getting educated about your options. It sounds like there is more work to do on your parenting plan. Consulting for an hour with an experienced family law attorney should give you an excellent idea of what the parents and child are really entitled to in a parenting plan and what the process will be to finish your case.

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  • My teen daughter is refusing to go to her father's house (his schedule time) tonight and threatening to run away if I make her.

    My fourteen year old daughter is responsible and wonderful young lady. For awhile now she has been coming home to my house stating she does not want to go to her fathers. I have always tried to validate her feelings, but emphasize the importance o...

    Douglas’s Answer

    Mr. Aronoff's answer is correct, but your daughter's situation is not hopeless. While there is no magic age where children get to decide for themselves, a 14-year old who is threatening to run away from her father's must be taken seriously. You really should contact an attorney in your area.

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  • How are child care costs calcutated if the custodial parent has a license for in-home day care?

    Added cost to father's child support of $850/month but children were not enrolled in formal daycare for past 5 years. Mother had "in home daycare" and watched 2-3 other children. How would court calcutate if father is seeking reimburments on pa...

    Douglas’s Answer

    Typically the cost would be calculated at the same rate she charges for the other children because she is using one of those slots for your child. You may have problems if you haven't complained about this to her previously and/or due to the fact you've waited a long time to take this to court.

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  • Non-custodial parent filed an appeal, should I proceed or not? Please help!

    My daughter was solely with me for her first 2 1/2 years. Her father filed for custody in December 2009 and won in January 2011. There was no reason to transfer custody, as I did nothing wrong. My lawyer filed an appeal, trial is June 2012. I now ...

    Douglas’s Answer

    This is a very complex issue for which there are no clear answers. Clearly a lot more information is needed than you can provide over email. You should sit down with an experienced family law attorney in your county soon for a "second opinion."

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  • How are stocks acquired before marriage, spent during marriage divided?

    My soon-to-be-ex wife is claiming that I give all of her $80,000 of stocks back, she had this amount before we got married and sold during our marriage. I had about $60,000 at that time. Currently, I have about $100,000 and she has $70,000. What t...

    Douglas’s Answer

    Generally, you can't divide what's gone. If $80k of separate property was used for a down payment on a house, then there would be a claim for the first $80k off the top. But if the stock was liquidated to take trips, pay down credit cards, living expenses, etc., then it's gone and can't be compensated. So the question is, "where's the money?"

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  • How do i force my ex wife to pay half of the mortgage of our house that i do not live in. my two children age 18 live with her

    divorced 6 years have paid maintenance and child support which is done but still paying mortgage?

    Douglas’s Answer

    The answer depends on the exact wording of your orders. Take your decree and child support order to an attorney to have them reviewed. It's also important to know if the obligation is balanced against something else you got in return, such as more property or lower child support.

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