You are in a very touchy situation. You could be held in contempt of court for not complying with the parenting plan, as crazy as that may seem. There was a major case in WA a number of years ago in which a parent was held in contempt (the Rideout Case) for not doing everything in their power to make the child go with the other parent on their scheduled time. Definitely seek local counsel immediately on this and document your efforts to try to have her return.
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Mr. Aronoff's answer is correct, but your daughter's situation is not hopeless. While there is no magic age where children get to decide for themselves, a 14-year old who is threatening to run away from her father's must be taken seriously. You really should contact an attorney in your area.
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You are definitely caught between a rock and a hard place. This is because parenting plans are between parents and then with the court if the parents are at odds. A child should not dictate what occurs, and there is always some danger that the child of divorced parents may have learned to manipulate certain situations. This is not unusual nor is it an unnatural response for children of divorce. A parent always needs to be available to the children when they express concerns, and do a bit of reality testing to see where the underlying reaction is coming from, but parents are bound by the parenting plan to facilitate visition. If an issue has surfaced since the entry of the last parenting plan that warrants a modification then the court expects the parties to utilize this procedure rather than take matters into their own hands. If the child does not go her father's for visitation, the other party could file a motion for contempt against you. Cases on this issue provide as follows:
While a parent should not be punished for the actions of a truly recalcitrant child, punishment is appropriate when the parent is the source of the child’s attitude or fails to overcome the child’s recalcitrance when, considering the child’s age and maturity, it is within that parent’s power to do so. Where a child resists court-ordered visitation and where the evidence establishes that the parent primarily responsible for the care of the child either contributes to the child’s attitude or fails to make reasonable efforts to require the child to comply with the parenting plan, such parent may be deemed to have acted in ‘bad faith’ for purposes of finding contempt under RCW 26.09.160(1). Rideout v. Rideout, 150 Wn.2d 337, 77 P.3d 1174 (2003); In re Marriage of Farr, 87 Wn. App. 177, 940 P.2d 679 (1997), review denied, 134 Wn.2d 1014 (1998); In re Marriage of James, 79 Wn. App. 436, 445, 903 P.2d 470 (1995).
You might want to consult these cases when determining how you plan to navigate this issue. You should also consult with an attorney. During the consultation (some of which are free for the first 1/2 or hour), you will be able to share with the attorney the specific facts of your case, which you should discuss over the internt, and will be able to give you some guideance and to offer you some recommendations.
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