Washington law specifically provides for a deviation "if the child spends a significant amount of time with the parent who is obligated to" pay child support. [RCW 26.19.075(1)(d)] Until recently, Washington courts found that this statute did not create an implied right to the reverse (i.e. there is no deviation if the child spends just a little time or no time with the parent who pays support). In 2008, the Court of Appeals in Seattle ruled that an "ex-husband's failure to spend any...
Every jurisdiction has different procedural rules, but there should be some general similarities. Have your lawyer personally serve your husband with the divorce Petition or Complaint and Summons. In all jurisdictions I know of, once you personally serve the Complaint, the opposing party only has so long to Answer before you can obtain a default judgment. If your husband does not file an Answer to the divorce Complaint/Petition, your lawyer can then file a default judgment against him. So,...