You should retain good legal counsel. While the period of limitations is important, the accrual of the cause of action - which starts the limitations period - will turn on the facts of your case (e.g., when you discovered or should have discovered the wrongdoing). Skillful lawyers will plead your case in a way that will give you the best chance of being permitted to pursue it. Get someone good to represent you.
I agree with my colleagues. First, advise the Judge of the wrongdoing. Point out any witnesses to the malfeasance. Then call the State Bar.
Note that your case will depend on the strength of your evidence. If a Court official - a bailiff, etc. - witnessed the lawyer stealing your evidence, you'll have a chance getting the attorney disciplined.
Never listen to the other side's paralegal. Legally, you do not have to sign any divorce settlement agreement with which you disagree or are uncomfortable. Insist on the language and deal points you want.
Do not respond to her. Keep all messages from her but don't respond. There is too much risk. Find a mutual friend to serve as an intermediary and ask them to advise her that you will need the TRO vacated before you can talk with her directly.
In addition to calling the Court Clerk with your case number, you should also check online at http://sccsuperiorcourt.org
The website has links that should enable you to pull up the Court Docket for your case to see if it is still pending or is "Post" judgement.
If the case is still pending and an order for status only dissolution has not been entered, then your spouse is now a bigamist.
In San Jose, if you wish to have a competent process server (nonattorney) assist you with preparation of the subpoena so that it satisfies legal requirements, you should contact County Process. Ask for Scott, the owner. Tell him that I referred you.