You should retain good legal counsel. While the period of limitations is important, the accrual of the cause of action - which starts the limitations period - will turn on the facts of your case (e.g., when you discovered or should have discovered the wrongdoing). Skillful lawyers will plead your case in a way that will give you the best chance of being permitted to pursue it. Get someone good to represent you.
I agree with my colleagues. First, advise the Judge of the wrongdoing. Point out any witnesses to the malfeasance. Then call the State Bar.
Note that your case will depend on the strength of your evidence. If a Court official - a bailiff, etc. - witnessed the lawyer stealing your evidence, you'll have a chance getting the attorney disciplined.
The mortgage situation is critical. If any portion of the house -- or renovations or additions -- was paid for with community funds, you own a portion of it. Don't quitclaim anything until this is sorted out.
Your judgment should list the restoration of your name. If it does not, then you should file an ex parte application to have your name restored. As you have already been divorced, the Court should grant the application.
Here are some steps to take: 1. Move in to an apartment or house in your children's school district (so there is less disruption) that has more than adequate bedroom and bathroom arrangements for the children (no more than two to a bedroom); 2. Make sure to carefully vet your adult housemates. If any has a criminal record, your spouse will be able to play that up in Court; 3. Figure out how you will handle childcare (close willing relatives preferred) when you are away at work; 4. File...
Never listen to the other side's paralegal. Legally, you do not have to sign any divorce settlement agreement with which you disagree or are uncomfortable. Insist on the language and deal points you want.
Yes, it will as it reflects on her fitness as a mother. She will have to fight the criminal charges if the facts allow her to do so. If the husband called the cops for his protection, he likely believes the children also need protection from their mother and will likely seek to limit her access to supervised visitation.
Do not respond to her. Keep all messages from her but don't respond. There is too much risk. Find a mutual friend to serve as an intermediary and ask them to advise her that you will need the TRO vacated before you can talk with her directly.