I think you should get an attorney for this hearing. Even though the courts have a preference for the status quo, you can never be sure how any individual court may rule. Your mom can be your witness. And you should gather your records regarding child support payments showing that he is in arrears. That is very good evidence of his motives. Good luck.
You elder law attorney can give you the best advise. But you do not need to disclose anything at all to your daughter. She has no right to your private information. Be prepared to call the police if you need immediate help and stay in close contact with your attorney.
Stop spinning your wheels. Most likely the emails are being written with your ex's direction and approval. She may just want the clarity it provides and she Appreciates helpful input. She is doing nothing wrong. Asking as the best interests if the children are being served then there is no harm.
Every attorney handles things differently. If it is all disclosed in the retainer agreement, then this is proper and you know before hand if you call or email that those are your charges. Having it spelled out in your retainer is "normal practice for family law attorneys"
If the other party is self represented then your attorney can speak to him or her. However your attorney cannot advocate for the other party He may be trying to settle your case which would be in your best interests
Yes this can be admissible but you should talk to an attorney about how to do it correctly. In the mean time you should take screen shot to preserve the evidence. The photos need to be date stamped and the person who took them will have to come to court to verify them. Again an attorney can help you to do this correctly.